Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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Lori50
Lori50

I feel that I compulsively take care of other people. I want to fix things. I wanna make things right for them. I don't feel like others put my Shiffert into fixing things for me. Thanks for listening.

urbangardener
urbangardener
Yes, you describe my natural but unhealthy instinct. I have to actually think and stop myself from over doing, trying to fix, etc. I will often feel guilt for not fixing or trying to change someone else. But it passes because I know better now and do positive self talk about not fixing others. I am going to recommend a book that helped me "The New Codependency" by Beatty. Her older version is "Codependent No More." I also have found out now that people dislike being fixed by others. My version is look how helpful I am but when I realized how annoying others find my fixing, well that shocked me.
mlr0853
mlr0853
Many years ago, a friend told me she """feels less than""" when I jump into helping....I 'used' to help to be accepted, acknowledged, approval...No Longer!

Sometimes helping is actually Hurting Someone, preventing them from learning a life lesson, self confidence.

I someone Asks for my help, I have the choice to say yes or no. If someone asks for my advice/thoughts, again I have the choice to say yes or no.

Focus on your self, your life, your needs First, this is called Self Care and It Is Not Being Selfish...

Two hurting people can not heal each other.
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