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I love this quote -
i went to a family wedding this weekend and i felt quite anxious, and not confident. I started thinking, i should get married - cus thats what everyone has done, i should do it now or i am a failure - i started thinking about my family and how i have let them down, i married an alcholic in 2000 and stayed with him for 6 yrs -
i feel shameless about this, and digusted that i could have put my self through tht, now when i think about it, i maybe sikh indian i dont have real interest in getting married, but when i see all my cousins and their famillies happy then it makes me think, oh maybe i should be doing that. I went into the toilet and i cried- i just wanted it to all end. I feel the pressure cus its a normal part of my culture, have a big wedding etc, get married to a sikh indian man who is well off - with a good job. i didnt feel like i could really connect with these people ,and i wouldnt trust them, it was just easier to be there, i was kind of jeaous and also sad -
the acutal wedding day is tomorw and i want to be confident. - but dont know how - i bought my self some Back rescue pastilles and have been chewing those to calm myself -
my brother who is a yr younger well - he and me we dont have a good relationship, he is not bothered about me and he thinks he is all that and he has always expected me to listen to his way - very controlling at times, the only reason we see or speak to each other is cus of mum and dad. I want to be happy and not so scared and fearful - but someitmes i feel so confused.
i went to a family wedding this weekend and i felt quite anxious, and not confident. I started thinking, i should get married - cus thats what everyone has done, i should do it now or i am a failure - i started thinking about my family and how i have let them down, i married an alcholic in 2000 and stayed with him for 6 yrs -
i feel shameless about this, and digusted that i could have put my self through tht, now when i think about it, i maybe sikh indian i dont have real interest in getting married, but when i see all my cousins and their famillies happy then it makes me think, oh maybe i should be doing that. I went into the toilet and i cried- i just wanted it to all end. I feel the pressure cus its a normal part of my culture, have a big wedding etc, get married to a sikh indian man who is well off - with a good job. i didnt feel like i could really connect with these people ,and i wouldnt trust them, it was just easier to be there, i was kind of jeaous and also sad -
the acutal wedding day is tomorw and i want to be confident. - but dont know how - i bought my self some Back rescue pastilles and have been chewing those to calm myself -
my brother who is a yr younger well - he and me we dont have a good relationship, he is not bothered about me and he thinks he is all that and he has always expected me to listen to his way - very controlling at times, the only reason we see or speak to each other is cus of mum and dad. I want to be happy and not so scared and fearful - but someitmes i feel so confused.
Hugs and have a blast in the party ... i know punjabi marriages are fun.. do some. Balleh balleh and have great food. One of my best friend are sikhs and have been to their parties... they sure did know to throw and enjoy parties...
I hope you can try to have a good time and keep that quote in the back of your mind. "Born an original - don't die a copy!" I love it, too.
When I was listening to motivational audio, one woman speaker said,, If we try to "be" someone other than ourselves, the best we can every be is a very good copy cat. It is kind of the same idea.
Hugs,
Shar