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I am sure that it is because of my codependency I don't know what to do when somebody doesn't like me. Yes of course there have people in my past that don't like me yet his mother doesn't.
Last year my boyfriend came home to spend the holidays with his family, well at least as gram and his great-gram. I spent some time talking with his grandmother and he wanted me to take off before he came back to her house with his mom. The next day when I came back to bring him some things that he left in my car I was not allowed in the house because his mom was there. For whatever reason she has a problem with me, even though the only thing that has kept him from getting locked up, is me.
So his birthday is next week, and he's coming home I couldn't be more excited except his mother. I sent him a Facebook message that said I would be the bigger person but to let me know if I was getting an attitude. I know that his birthday and the holidays are very important to him I wasn't taken away from his family.
He called me today and said that he had a long talk with his mother and told her that she needed to deal with me because I'm part of his life and I'm not going anywhere. He told her he didn't want to have to juggle his time between me and her. It brought tears to my eyes when I heard him say that. It's nice to know that I mean that much to him that he is willing to stand up to his mother about me.
I never thought I'd be a woman that had problems with her mother-in-law. Now he says that she's okay with it but only time will tell them the first test will be his birthday.
Last year my boyfriend came home to spend the holidays with his family, well at least as gram and his great-gram. I spent some time talking with his grandmother and he wanted me to take off before he came back to her house with his mom. The next day when I came back to bring him some things that he left in my car I was not allowed in the house because his mom was there. For whatever reason she has a problem with me, even though the only thing that has kept him from getting locked up, is me.
So his birthday is next week, and he's coming home I couldn't be more excited except his mother. I sent him a Facebook message that said I would be the bigger person but to let me know if I was getting an attitude. I know that his birthday and the holidays are very important to him I wasn't taken away from his family.
He called me today and said that he had a long talk with his mother and told her that she needed to deal with me because I'm part of his life and I'm not going anywhere. He told her he didn't want to have to juggle his time between me and her. It brought tears to my eyes when I heard him say that. It's nice to know that I mean that much to him that he is willing to stand up to his mother about me.
I never thought I'd be a woman that had problems with her mother-in-law. Now he says that she's okay with it but only time will tell them the first test will be his birthday.
I struggle with an impossible to please mother in law. My goal at this point is to quit trying to please someone who just refuses to be happy....AND to quit letting where that person is at affect me. I find it really difficult. I've been working at it for our entire relationship, I haven't always been terribly successful at it.