Codependency Support Group

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am I alone or what?

ladydi1961
ladydi1961
I had a friend who lied and took our friendship for something different. We had plans to do christmas cards right before christmas and I found out that she lied to me until I got to her place that she had no cards to do and the only reason she used the cards excuse to get me to her house to see me. Instead of asking me just to come over and hang out she thought of a lame excuse to get me to her house. I was soo pissed and so shock that I said nohing cause I did not know what to say.

Other stuff had happen and this is the last straw that I need to detach myself and move on with healthier friends.


ladydi1961
BuffyS
BuffyS
I can relate as I just dumped a friend too. Sometimes it takes a while to realize that a person just isn't good for us emotionally, and that we've been staying in the friendship out of habit, convenience, etc. But then something happens and we say, "Wait! I don't have to be around this person. They make me feel bad and I don't need that in my life."

The hard part is finding nice people to develop friendships with. And as we get older, it can get trickier meeting people, at least for me, b/c I'm not very outgoing. But it's worth a little loneliness to avoid users and deceivers.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have found that her name is either Katie Byron or Byron katie, sorry I can't remember her name right now. But her book, has really been a nice supplement to my reading when it comes to learning skills with relationships. Her method is so easy and it works. For example, one of the questions she asks is: where would you be without that feeling? When I give myself a few minutes or longer and think about that question I usually like the end result.