I need to try and find one too.

Coda or ACOA meetings r very few in my area. Do you think AL ANON those meetings can be beneficial for Coda people? Are they generally open to coda ppl? I believe there r tons of alanon meetings in my area.
thanks

Yes, you can get much help for codependency in Al-Anon, because that's what its all about.....becoming codependent as a result of exposure to alcoholism in a relative or friend, even generations skipped.

I suggest you go to six meetings and see if you hear/see yourself in what is shared. if it fits, its your program.

I've had the 6 meetings goal happening for a long time now - went to three and dropped the ball....any support or encouragement on this goal is really welcomed :-(

And good for you loveforme and I love your profile name! x

Here's some encouragement! 12-step meetings are for those who want that help, not for those who need it! Meaning, when recovery becomes important enough, and the lack of it painful enough, I find myself at the number of meetings I need to attend to make progress.

I feel sure you will do the same! You are worth the effort!!!

I like your comment that you got more out of a meeting that out of months of therapy. Isn't it funny how a free support group is more beneficial than paying some stranger a boatload of money to listen to you (or pretend to listen) for 50 mins! I'm glad it was helpful.

good for you for attending.. recovery is one of the best gifts we can give ourselves.. you are worth it! and I keep going to my meetings because I am worth it and want the recovery and good positive changes I see al-anon/coda has done for many people walking this path and journey of recovery....

I have been trying to make myself go to the meeting but I find myself feeling guilty. Like I am betraying my husband. and i would never go to one after work hours because that would mean I am away from home. he does his thing (drinking) during the hours I am at work then we sit at home for the rest of the night miserable

I am a codependent, alcoholic, recovering child of God. I am worthy and deserving of a peaceful life. I am able to reach out and ask for help. My own best thinking got me right here. I cannot do this alone. I am willing to ask for help. I know that when I am sick enough of the pattern I am in, that I will do something about it. I have to believe that I am as worthy of my love as the next "guy."
If nothing changes, nothing changes. I have decided to not answer the phone for a few days. I am happy in my home, without the triggers of someone who evokes shameful feelings. It is o.k if I avoid this. It is o.k if I choose to do something for myself. I know it will take time to feel like I am getting somewhere, and there are those who will not like it that i am doing it. But, in the end we have one life to live. It is worth it to me to start mine today.

I am grateful to have been suggested to attend Al Anon and to keep going, and to finally a couple years in starting to do some answering of questions on first step of the 12 steps of Al Anon.

I really like attending different Al Anon meetings. They are all completely different in many ways. One has readings from "How Al Anon works" which are priceless. Another is a book study from "From Survival to Recovery" and some of the stories stir up so much old childhood stuff, it is amazing to have the support of a group to process it with.
And yes, even if alcoholism runs generations back in my family, I find that I am still affected.
Another Al Anon focuses on meditation and we share on step 11.
Then there are step studies.
It is good to go to more than one meeting, I find. There is much to benefit from.

I will go to another meeting tomorrow!!