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Hi everyone
I am indian sikh and i am very different in the way i think and live my life, and at the age of 34 now i am feeling the pressure to conform to culture / marriage. I am with a english chap and we are happy, and are working through life together. I dont even feel like i want to have kids or get married - i feel like there is just more to life than that! i love my freedom, we love going to cottages and having time out! vegging out, eating good food!
but my family keep saying to me to make a decisio, but i am in no rush to get do what everyone is asking! Its not really the norm to be over 30 and not married, especially not to have children as well!!! wht to do!
I am indian sikh and i am very different in the way i think and live my life, and at the age of 34 now i am feeling the pressure to conform to culture / marriage. I am with a english chap and we are happy, and are working through life together. I dont even feel like i want to have kids or get married - i feel like there is just more to life than that! i love my freedom, we love going to cottages and having time out! vegging out, eating good food!
but my family keep saying to me to make a decisio, but i am in no rush to get do what everyone is asking! Its not really the norm to be over 30 and not married, especially not to have children as well!!! wht to do!
I say, if you're happy, keep it the way it is! And, if you have kids, they can be love children, conceived, and raised outside of marriage! Don't fall into the stigma of "these are bastard children". Not true. Wouldn't children be happier in a home with happy parents, instead of parents who were forced into an uncomfortable marriage?
Your family will simply have to warm up to the idea, if they still want you in their lives.
I think you need to do some soul-searching and decide what you want. From your post, it sounds like you already do know what you actually want, but it is completely your decision (your life).
Good Luck,
Shar