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mysteryman73
mysteryman73
If you found out a ex gf or bf cheated on you while yall were together would you want to know why and would you say anything to them about it now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Not if I've moved on. I think I would ask myself why I am considering it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
No, I don't think so. If we had been married, yet, but dating - no. Some people don't see marriage as monogomus. And, if your relationship has ended and you are not trying to rekindle it...just know that person doesn't fit your standards and your better off w/o them as a 'partner'. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry, I meant to type 'yes' not yet...If I had been married to the person, yes I would confront them. If I had been just dating - I wouldn't mention it unless they asked to consider getting back together - it would be my #1 reason for NO. :)
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
Interesting question

First half i did come to know he cheated while with him after i broke up with him yes it did disappoint me and I did beat myself up with it saying i should have been careful.... Realised, when all is done.... No point beating myself up or asking ex abt it because its not even worth it.... Absolutely no feeling now... Its more like Karma will get to them i am powerless over others.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,

I agree, if you have moved on, forget it. It speaks volumes about them, not you. Trust is one of my deal-breakers in that regard. It happened to me once and there was no going back for me. I did not feel the same way toward the person any longer AND big surprise, they did the same to the next female on their list.

Shar