I am completely lost. I have always been so codependent in the relationships that I have had. I never got to find out the person that I am or what I am really about. I feel like I had no identity. I was so worried about the other person in the relationship that I lost me, whomever that is. I was always too busy molding to the person that I was with, someone that they would want to be with and keep them happy. Here is my problem, I am going through a divorce and am raising my twin boys. Through this I am slowly learning who I am and what I am about. I am a lot stronger than I have even given myself for. I struggle everyday tho, while raising my boys, I am teaching them to be strong, stand up for themselves and most importantly, be who they are. But that is very hard to do because I struggle to do the exact same thing, that I am teaching them to do. I am just so lost...