Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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Xtina 04/19/2011

Why am I in love with someone who isn't in love with me. She loves me but no in love. She does the world for me but, won't be with me.. She came over last night (She lives with my Grams) around 11 I assume she wanted to take a shower and not wake Grams up. Anyways she didn't really wanna spoon and when I touch her she breaths hard. How come I can't leave because now I've been crying all morning.

She watches out for my feeling so I'm so confused. I don't wanna cry anymore..

So, what if, I'm codependent and bi polar. I still feel beautiful and worth more so, why do I settle..Why do I think she's the greatest...why why why

deleted_user 04/19/2011

I understand your pain.

deleted_user 04/19/2011

Wow, I know exactly how you feel. It seems like I am always the one doing 80% of the giving and loving and I never get back from a relationship what I put into it. I am hopelessly attracted to the wrong sort of person for me. My counselor says that we end up with people that pretty much don't treat us a whole lot better or worse than we were treated in our families when we grew up.

I think you said it, though, you 'are' beautiful and deserve better, so don't settle any more! I am desperately trying to do the same, and I think recognizing the problem is a huge first step in getting well.

I wish you luck! :)

deleted_user 04/29/2011

i too feel the same way you do how can someone say they love you but they are not in love with you :( hugs you do deserve better and like i have been reading once i am ok and feel better about myself then that person that is really meant to be with me will never come best of luck everyone

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