The judge isn't going to play around. Your son's been doing things his way. The judge will show him his way. I promise you, it will not be the easier softer way. Once you're in the "system," it's a revolving door until you can clean up your act long enough to get off paper (probation, parole, etc.) He's in for a rude awakening. It won't be too bad, but to him since it's his 1st time it'll be hell. It's very humbling to have all your freedoms taken away. We take them for granted until they're taken away. It may make him stop. Hopefully he'll stop for good.

Very timely. We have our court date this morning. I know my son is very nervous about it. Thank you.

I had to in order to help myself after I did no one would trust me GOOD for me. thank god no one came after me

If you want to get your kid clean it has to start with him not his dealer.

Echoing what everybody else has said, every dealer is diffrent but many would kill you. I believe that strongly, or people they know would, and they would easily find out who snitched. Or punish your son not you.

About his having "bad friends" they may be bad, but he chose them. And while there may be some science to getting his away from those friends if he is underage and under your control, you will just have to keep him away from his new friends. Now if his is using with his friends, he will never quit until he loses contact with him. you can not be sober and have friends that are nto sober. Rarely it works...

But it has to come from within him. If he is young, and has a problem with cocaine, please take extreme measures to help him. I know that inpatient treatment is expensive and not covered by insurance but meetings are free. He needs you. But you cannot do it for him. Create a "rock bottom" for him to hit. Make his life the worst it could be and be clear that his drug use has brought him to this rock bottom. Good luck.

Mynumber,
Are you kidding? Make his rock bottom? Make his life the worst it can be? His addiction did not cause this rock bottom, if she does this. Rock bottom is when the consequences fo your won actions, out you there. How is this going to do anything but make him resent her and withdrawl?
Is that how you would like your mother to treat you? Or would you rather, someone purposely make your life the worst it can be? An addict must want to get better for themselves, not for anyone else.

I know what mynumber1 was saying.....and I know what you're saying, Just Kelly. I've been told that both are true. Upon arriving to court we found out that the pretrial had to be rescheduled due to lack of evidence with some of the charges. Fortunately, we were asked (on the side) if we would like any help until then. I said yes and a home detention was ordered. We ARE able to create a "rock" bottom in an indirect way. Since this isn't pleasant for him - it contribute to his rock bottom. He, in turn, will see that this is one consequence that he created. His attitude yesterday here at home was so much better than we've seen in along time. I know he has lots of work to do but this is definitely a step in the right direction! Thanks to both of you for your input. ***I decided to drop any idea of finding the dealer(s). I need to focus on my son. The police are aware of one of the guys but haven't been able to catch him, yet.

I think you have to go with your gut feelings on this and work with your son he can over-come this with your help. good luck

But for me it was my family and god that help me get off the bottom with out them I would still be there

Got one. I know she wasn't a big time dealer but she had quite a reputation from what I hear. She may have gotten away with it if she would have been more careful on her IM's. She is a senior in high school in another town from ours. She attends a much bigger school and, from what I hear....she is 3rd in her class. She played the part - looking like a preppy student. She was so sweet, dressed nicely, friendly that I understand none of the school officials would have known. I couldn't help but like her. Fortunately, the instant message told another story. She was at our house after school one day and I knew she was into drugs (like most of my son's friends). Because my son is on house arrest, I've been getting to know or see the friends who he's been socializing with. Later...the day she was here....she and my son made plans to her to stop by the house before school so that my son could get "something" from her before he went to school. They were unaware that my husband and I knew what was going on. Even though the electricity went off and would have messed up their plans anyway....we wouldn't have let it happen, anyway. I thought of calling the police as she sat outside in her van outside our home, but it was too late when I thought of it. She got caught anyway. I told my friend whose son attends the same school as she does. She, in turn, called the school and they called the police. She was up to neck in dealing and, I guess, using. They found quite a bit (not sure how much) of heroin and other "stuff". I am glad they got her. She needs the help and the others don't need her to "take care of them". So it can be done discreetly...sometimes.