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fifteen stairs in my house..:-) killin' time 'til BT meds are working..:-) :-)


ANYWAY...since I'm here......here's a little topic.
Does anyone else ever worry about becomming bitter? I do.
Sometimes...when I'm having a particularly hard time..I find my first, reflex thought avout things isn't what I'd like it to be.
Like....instead of joy for someone else, I'll feel envy.
Or.....I sometimes resent healthy people talking about their problems.

I'm not liking this about me. I can see where it would be so easy to become bitter living this way. I try to balance it out with gratitude...but..sometimes the best I can do is just keep it a thought instead of saying it out loud.

anyone else?

hugs...jc
jancam
jancam
Well...dang it....I typed those struggles out in stair formation and it came up like that.....
RJRelaxing
RJRelaxing
Bitterness is easy. It is hard to remember to find things to be grateful for. A daily fight for me.

It seems that my purpose, that God has given me, is to take care of people. I guess I had dreams of having a real life like I see others living, but that has never been my life.

I started a gratitude book trying to put down one positive thing a day. Sometimes all I can come up with is that "I am still above the green".

I am grateful that I have been able to help others through their journeys.

The bitterness is not envy of others, just saddness that I know I will never have a regular life. I try very hard to keep the bitterness and anger away from me because I know it will only make all this sickness worse. So I try to focus on thankfulness for each upright moment.

It is one tough battle only second to pain control. -RJ
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Just one more thing to love about DS.... the TOTAL lack of word edit control.
maddiesgrammie
maddiesgrammie
HELLO FRIEND,IM SO VERY SORRY FOR ALL THE PAIN THAT SEEMS TO HAVE SURROUNDED YOU AT THIS TIME.I SO UNDERSTAND THE FEELINGS EMOTIONS AND THOUGHTS THAT YOU DESCRIBE.I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF,BUT SO MANY TIMES DURING THE DAY AND NIGHT,ALL I CAN SAY IS ONE WORD,BUT IT IS SO POWERFUL AND I KNOW WHEN I SPEAK IT EITHER TO MYSELF OR OUT LOUD,EVERY AREA OF MY LIFE IS COVERED FOR.THE 1 WORD IS JESUS.PLEASE KNOW THAT IF YOU EVER WANT OR NEED TO TALK THAT I AM ONLY A MESSAGE AWAY FROM YOU.MADDIE.
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deleted_user
JC, good morning, i love this topic because i can tell you this..I work with the public, and i see disablied people all the time, and they seem to be the meanest customers, and the most difficult to please.. I am not trying to group anyone together, and i am certainly not saying that all disablied people are mean, but thats just what i have experienced here.. Please, nobody YELL at me about this, im just stating what i have noticed, and then on the other hand there is this one woman that rides her scooter chair past the store everyday, and i always go out and talk to her and she is one of the nicest people i have met.. so i guess it all depends on the way you handle your disabiliy, and your attitude toward life..
~stinke~
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deleted_user
Hey on the flip aids, I have also expienced love, kindness and gratitude on our site..maybe at work, I'm the ~stinke~one..lol
serenityha
serenityha
jan, i know what you mean. i struggle with that feeling at times, but it's more with my family, but i try to be aware of it and to stop and say bless you, bless you...i've become friends with some people in the past who i didn't have a good impression of and didn't really feel they were the kind of person to be friends with b/c of their attitude. but once i got to know the back story, i could understand it and hopefully, it changed some.

i also know that step by step struggle - there were 8 to get in the building, 32, i think, to get to he apt. ouch, ouch...i guess they don't want us to do stairs on here!!
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Hi Jan,
Where we lived before had 14 stairs to the upstairs. I fell down them twice. Tried to decide if I should live on the first floor, where the ktchen is, or the upstairs where the bathroom is.
Fixed it by getting a mini fridge for my bedroom! LOL!

Seriously though, it's just human nature to feel bitter from time to time. I try to remember that healthy people's problems are big to them. Can't be too mad at them for that.

I, too, try to remember what I'm grateful for. It balances out the bitter feelings.

Sandy