Chronic Pain Support Group
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I've had a lot of 'remedies' for migraines come my way and for the most part, I just smile politely and change the topic. People mean well and they usually don't have all my information so I let it go.
This time it really makes me mad though. My own sister and cousin actually crossed a line this time. Everytime I see my cousin she has something new wrong with her, and I lost count of what her list of ailments are. Nothing big though Mostly allergies and sensitivies that I have to hear about endlessly. But this is not what bothers me.
What really bugs me is the insult and stupidity that ensued today. My cousin is taking a course on Bar Energy where it's like you heal someone's energy over their head and make them whole. These two ninnies told me that I have "energy bars' in my head and they are all crossed because of my misguided thoughts I've had all my life and actually suggested that I should let my cousin heal me. ARE YOU SERIOUS?!
First off, it is MY FAULT that I have migraines because I have THOUGHT things wrongly? And secondly, that my cousin, who is always ill can HEAL ME by waving her hands over my head! REALLY???? All these years and I just needed to have air waved over my head by someone who knows how to do it? My sister....my own sister, who I thought knew how much I suffered is so brain dead that she even suggests I try this?
I have been physically hurting so bad for so long and cry so many times a day when no one is looking. As I politely held my tongue, I wanted to scream and cry and yell at them and call them complete idiots. Can they help a person get out of a wheelchair?! Can they cure arthritis? Do they really think my pain is so petty?! I just can't look at them right now. There is just too much emotion in me right now to be able to deal with it. If I was under normal circumstances I could say that they were being silly and irrational, but under my present condition, it will just come out like a scream or a squall.
Thanks for letting me get this out. I just keep obsessing about it and needed to get it out.
When I'm healed I will tell them, but I can't today.
This time it really makes me mad though. My own sister and cousin actually crossed a line this time. Everytime I see my cousin she has something new wrong with her, and I lost count of what her list of ailments are. Nothing big though Mostly allergies and sensitivies that I have to hear about endlessly. But this is not what bothers me.
What really bugs me is the insult and stupidity that ensued today. My cousin is taking a course on Bar Energy where it's like you heal someone's energy over their head and make them whole. These two ninnies told me that I have "energy bars' in my head and they are all crossed because of my misguided thoughts I've had all my life and actually suggested that I should let my cousin heal me. ARE YOU SERIOUS?!
First off, it is MY FAULT that I have migraines because I have THOUGHT things wrongly? And secondly, that my cousin, who is always ill can HEAL ME by waving her hands over my head! REALLY???? All these years and I just needed to have air waved over my head by someone who knows how to do it? My sister....my own sister, who I thought knew how much I suffered is so brain dead that she even suggests I try this?
I have been physically hurting so bad for so long and cry so many times a day when no one is looking. As I politely held my tongue, I wanted to scream and cry and yell at them and call them complete idiots. Can they help a person get out of a wheelchair?! Can they cure arthritis? Do they really think my pain is so petty?! I just can't look at them right now. There is just too much emotion in me right now to be able to deal with it. If I was under normal circumstances I could say that they were being silly and irrational, but under my present condition, it will just come out like a scream or a squall.
Thanks for letting me get this out. I just keep obsessing about it and needed to get it out.
When I'm healed I will tell them, but I can't today.
he said it worked hugs minnie
upsetting hugs minnie
Last night I shared this with my hubby and son and they suggested that I let her do the therapy over my head and then midway through, start yelling OOw, Stop it, you are making it worse!!
Seriously though, part of a coping mechanism in chronic pain is to be distracted, but to be distracted while someone is rubbing me the wrong way is just going to be volitile. After reading your posts I think I will stay away from my cousin for a while and she is free to experience life as she will. I do understand where she is coming from, but I've been around people like this before and I just can't be around that right now.
As for my sister, she has seen me suffer, as Sammy pointed out, and I know she does care. I'm going to email so I dont' explode and explain why my cousin and her ideas upsets me. This way it is not an attack on my sister and she is privy to some information about me. Loved ones shouldn't be held accountable for single sentences, but for the whole of their being.
Thanks again guys, you helped me get here.
Love you guys. Thanks for sharing my pain.
I don't think others understand. We don't only live in pain that is severe but it takes a toll on every aspect of our lives. Takes a huge amount of energy physically & emotionally. We have to fight for whatever quality we have. So to make comments & suggestions like that is hard pill to swallow for those of us who live this kind of life.
We want our loved ones to understand so badly. You have made wise choices & I hope your sister understands. The best of luck to you.
Blessings, Sammy
HUGS to you and lots of support! :-)
I think I did the fad diets because I was desperate and wanted them to work but they never did I had to get to the root of the problem and eat healthy and exercise as the saying goes cant get nothing for free you got to work at it.
I think if it was me that I would think in the back of my mind they were thinking that my Migraines were not something big it was something so small that they could fix it with energy bars waving over my head and I would think deep down that they dont get how serious it is in my life.
As far as your migraines i have the utmost sympathy for you. when i was in my early twenties i suffered from migraines so severe i sat in the dark and cried and threw up for 5-10 hours at a time. My mother is the only one that gave me a cure for those though. she pulled me aside with tears in her eyes and told me that i had to wait it out and suffer for years. and eventually they would go away. I was pissed at her for that tidbit of advice but it turns out she was right, almost 5 years to the day my migraines started, they abruptly stopped and i never had one again. I found out a year or so later my mother had suffered through them for 6 years in her 20's and my grandfather had them for 5 yrs when he was in his twenties. all i can figure was maybe it was a family tradition...lol