Cherry,

Why hate your body? Hate your Doctor for not giving you the tools that you need to have your pain under control, or at least more manegable. Do you have a pain management Doctor, or is she a GP? If she is a GP, I found that most GP are afraid to precribe narcotics because they are afraid of the DEA and the possibility of loosing their license. You need to find a good PM Doc ASAP.

I can tell you that I've been in pain management now for 4 years, and even though my pain is always there (4-5 level), I can function better and have a better quality of life because my Doctor prescribe the meds and interventions to make my life easier. Instead of waiting to see if this Doctor is going to help you, you need to help yourself. Check out if there are good pain management Doctor's in your city, check out; www.doctorsforpain.com or go to the American Academy Of Pain Medicine website; www.painmed.org, and find a Doctor that will be willing to help you.

Sitting idle does not help, try to find a good Doctor, and someone that will treat your whole body, and then maybe you can start having better days, and a better life. Remember, if you do not advocate for you, no one else will, so get on the ball and find someone that can help.

Big Hugs,

My doc is just a GP and she spends 2 days a week in the clinic I go to and thes rest at the women's wellness center at the hospital. Everyone says that she loves family medicine. I hadn't even heard of having a pain management doc until joining this group and I don't know another person around my area who is dealing with chronic pain. I'm sure there must be plenty, but we don't have any kind of resource to go to for help. Pain clinics around here don't prescribe drugs so I haven't known what else to do.

I was treated like I was just looking for drugs at the clinic I'd gone to for years. The doc I have now worked there for a while and didn't care for the way it was run and I had just switched to her. So when she left, I followed. I feel that it was a mistake since I can never reach her, but she was the first one who had at least tried to help me.

I will check those websites for some information. Thanks, Tipper. Sorry to be such a PIA! The idea that this might possibly be managed is totally nw to me. If my pain was under comtrol and I could stop working...maybe I could make the move that I so desperately need.

Cherry when it is all so overwhelming, and it is, take one little step each day. I am sorry you are going through this. So many changes.
I sure don't like change.

I hope you have a little peace sometime this day and a special person comes forward to help you.

Hugs,
Linda

Frustration is part of the process...don't give up, you can do it.

It is overwhelming to think about doing this all yourself. Pain meds or not that will just be too much to deal with in chronic pain. You will have to solicit help from somebody to go through and pack things up. When I had to move from one town to the other a year ago, I had 2 friends, my sister and my son that did all of the packing and lifting. That is the only way I was able to accomplish it. Otherwise, I would still be sitting there wondering how I am going to get it done. Most stuff except what I absolutely needed went to a friend's garage for storage. It's amazing how little you can get by with. Less stuff to dust and keep clean the better. Good luck.

@cc - wow, that was an actual supportive post. lol

@Cherry - you are never whining. I am having similar issues. From what everyone has told me just be strong and honest with your doc. Tell her that this is severely affecting your life and you need more help.

Easier said then done, I know.

Hang in there. PM me anytime. I am going off boards for awhile but will be on others. I am praying for you!

Hugs
Kallie

big hugs...the light will come at the end of the tunnel soon =) xxx

Hi!

I know how you feel. There are times when I am so angry that I am stuck in this useless body.

I have had to learn to leave some mess. The amount of meds that gets rid of all my pain can only be adminstered by an anesthelogist. Who wants to live asleep all the time?

I prioritize my work. I get done the important things and let others go. I also make a list of what will set off the pain, what needs rest period after and what can be accomplished while in pain without causing it to worsen.
I accomplihed this with a pain journal where I wrote out my pain level, what I did before and after, what made it better, what made it worse. Then I planned out my day so I can do as much as possible without killing myself.

Of course, there are days when nothing works and I feel rotten anyway. On those days, I struggle thru the critical items and then say to h*ll with the rest.

Hope you find something that helps you.

Cherry,

Because you don't have a pain management Doctor, I send you in my first post, the websites to 2 very reliable sources were all you need to do is put the city that you live in, and then find a Doctor that will treat your pain. If you do not advocate for yourself NO ONE ELSE WILL, so get on those websites, and make a list of the Doctor's in your area, and start calling and making appointments. It took me 6, yes SIX pain management Doctor's before I found the one that I have right now, and I absolutely love him!

It takes work to find a good pain management Doctor, and is work that gives dividends, so you can either keep seeing that Doctor that does not treat your pain correctly, or you can use your time to look for a good pain management Doctor that will take care of your pain, and allow you to have a better quality of life.

hugs,

I did check those websites for doctors, but there is no one even close to me. I'm going to ask my GP about the possibilities on Monday.

I really need to find a female doc...old junk.

Thanks,

Cherry

@ CC, loved the supportive post! :)

Pinky

Don't be surprised...supporting progress is what helps. Enabling surrender to pain is the opposite of support IMO.

Cherry, i really hope you find an answer to your pain. I don't see how you are even able to work. Could you get disability? Take a vacation? anything so you can get things under control. Big Hug

I applied for disability last year and was denied. I know that's standard procedure, but the amount I was going to receive wouldn't even covered my mortgage, taxes and insurance so I decided to just keep struggling along. Now, it's acute and I'm forced to find a way out of this life. Even being in a car for a half hour leaves me feeling crippled. I can't sit for long...I can't stand for long and they had the nerve to say I could do something else besides hairdressing!

I don't know what and I wouldn't hire me in this condition!

Thanks for the support,

Cherry

Cherry, ask yourself this: If it was one of your sons who was in terrible pain and didn't want to bother you to ask for help, what would your reaction be?

I'm assuming you would tell them to ask any time they need help; always happy to be of assistance. If I'm right, then ask yourself this: What makes you think you're any better than they are? You would drop everything to help them, so let them have the opportunity to do the same for you. They love you as much as you love them. Give them a call. Your body will feel better and so will your heart.

Gentle hugs to you.