Thanks, I'm glad someone out there sees my point.

I am sorry I am just asking for some Advice My doctor wont listen to me at all They keep saying there's nothing we can do they just tell me o deal with my pain

is this support group for chronic pain?and are we as members trusted to do our best to remain positive and helpful?,,,,if its a chronic pain issue that someone cant relate to,then dont respond....,,,

its a major issue with me as well...tabby,i hope you find relief...try a big freezer bag of ice and lay it on your belly with a thin towel inbetween....freezing the areas per-say,helps mine...
hugs
amy

Thanks amerika Yes this is a Chronic pain issues I will try what you said and see if if helps I am also going to talk to my Doctor. and see what they suggest

This forum is for medical issues and PAIN. That's what she is talking about. Why are grown adults so worried about talking about a natural process? OMG, I don't know who irritates me more, the mother who won't "let" her 22 year old child take birth control to help ease her pain, or the response from otherwise normal adults in this forum. We discus constipation- why not menstruation?

Kiddo- you are 22. If you're American, you're old enough in this country to find a doctor. If you don't have money, try Planned Parenthood. I had to start BC pills at 15 b/c of my endometriosis. I had heavy periods- so bad that I'd vomit and get diarrhea. Then pill helped a LOT. It didn't mean getting sexually active- that is a myth. It just stopped the ridiculously painful, heavy periods, headaches and nausea.

Talk to your doc and if you feel better having him or her talk to your mom, do that. But you can most likely stop this with birth control. And EVERY pill we take has some side effect. If BC pills caused as many strokes as certain people want us to believe, no one would use it. I don't know one person who ever had one and know tons of women on BC pills.

Till you can get into the doc, try as mentioned above. I ALWAYS found that motrin worked better for my periods than morphine! I'm not kidding. Before early menopause due to in-vitro treatments, I would be taking morphine and valium for the pain of RSD and it wouldn't even TOUCH the menstrual pain. Only motrin did. Anti-inflammatory drugs are great for cramps!

Also, with the amount you are bleeding, you need to see a doc whether you want BC pills or not.

Don't be afraid to ask questions- pain is pain. Good Luck and PM me if you want to talk!

well I can respond because I know her and went to school with her. She is scared to tell her doctor stuff because of her mom and she has been known to say she has stuff and she does not just to get attention. I have been trying to tell her she has to tell her doctors everything so they can check her out. Tabitha if you have this problem then you need to go to a gynecologist so they can help you. I know you are scared to go to them but you have to for your health. All of us have to go at least once a year. If your mom wont take you then you need to call the womens crisis center....they are there 24/7 to talk with you. If she does not give you healthcare you need then she should not have adopted you or deserve to keep you.. hugs 2 u tabitha

Yes, see a doctor, Tabitha. I do think that is what most of us were saying...but whether we know her or not we can't declare medical problems off limits b/c they only apply to half of the population. It's not the 1950's and if the 70's taught us anything it is that we MUST talk about these things. In my middle school way back in the olden day 80's, they taught us about this stuff in coed classes.

Tabitha, as the mother of an adopted child, I can tell you I feel no different about him than I do the son who was born and died the same day. In fact, if anything, I love him MORE b/c of all it took to get him. But IF your mom is not treating you as a mother should, your friend is right and you need to seek outside help. A mother telling a 22 year old not to wear tampons? Why does this sound familiar? Ever see the movie "Carrie" with Sissy Spacek?

You are an adult. I don't know your situation, but you ARE an adult. I pray you have the access to outside help that others do. There's no shame in asking for help. I was married at 19 to a man who abused me. He only had to do it one time for me to seek help. I was living in a state far away from any family, and I still was able to find help. Then I rented a UHaul and packed what I could after my Kardashian-style marriage, and returned home and was soon back in college.

My prayers are with you- just tell the truth and seek help from the right people. Reaching out here was a good idea, now go a step further and go to the women's crises center your friend recommended or at least Planned Parenthood for a doctor's help.

Good Luck!

Thanks pugglemom I am scared to say anything to my doctor because of my mom If I say anything she gets mad. But I am going to tell my docor the next time I am going to tell everything. When I ask my doctor if I could be put on birth control they said yes They asked my mom and she said no she can't have it.. Because I am under gauidian ship If my mom says no its no Ikeep begging her to please let me but she won't I am just in so much pain I cry myself to sleep everynight I will call the womens crisis center of louisville because I need help Do you know of any good gynocolost ?

I can see both sides to this. Although this is a public forum for chronic pain, I think this might be more fitting under the PMS board since it relates to menstruation. (Or even the endometriosis board.) Since her symptoms aren't just pain-related but also seem to revolve around irregular cycles and flow problems then a board where the majority of the members have experienced such problems might be more helpful. Most of the members on either one of those boards have been through the same thing, while the Chronic Pain group have afflictions that are more generalized and can take place all over the body. (Some are here for back, feet, headaches, abdomen, neck, etc.) For Tabby's own peace of mind, I would reccommend a more specialized group here on DS.

On the other hand, she has posted this same problem for more than a month on multiple boards. (Five at last count.) The advice has all been great, but advice can only go so far. At this point, going to the gynecologist (as most members have suggested) is the best idea.