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Life sucks today

yadlim
yadlim
So instead of bonding with my daughter over making her a dress for an upcoming wedding she is going to.... I am at my computer in tears because I hurt too much to just be alive right now.

I am 'making my pain meds stretch' as my vicoden is supposed to be here on Friday but I have no verification it has mailed out yet... If it has not shipped, we will have to wait probably until Tuesday to pick it up... hopefully.

Between stretching pain meds, a sudden cold front (oh I love 20 degrees!!), and wind storms, I just flat hurt.

I had planned to do most of the work on the dress - I am a better seamstress than my daughter, at least for following bought patterns. She and I are about equal when eyeballing a simple pattern from a picture. She is worried that the dress won't be as nice as she wants. She wants reassurance, bonding, mommy.

I have nothing to give her and that sucks.

yadlim
crazyhazeynut
crazyhazeynut
so sorry you are in pain. Will there be any time after you get your meds to help with dress or will that be to late? Either way I am sure she knows you want to help. Take care. Sending well wishes and good thoughts your way.
gramybear
gramybear
yadim, you are doing the very best you can. It is not easy to do much of anything when our pain levels are through the roof. Mine has gotten so bad that I have layed on my bed crying and throwing things that were not breakable. So I do understand your pain. I'm sure the dress is going to be gorgeous.... Hang in there honey. I hope your medication comes soon! Hugs GB
yadlim
yadlim
I cut out the bodice for her - but the fabric is hard to work with and it is just beyond her skill set. She is frustrated and does not want to trust me on how to deal with it. But my back is done right now.

We have today and tomorrow to get this dress finished. Friday we have horses to deal with all day.

The gauze and satin has gone away for a simple cotton. It won't be half as cute, but it will be nice.

yadlim - who is ready to just keel over and fall asleep at my desk
yadlim
yadlim
And the saga of the dress goes on....

It breaks my heart as it is a pattern that I should have been able to cut out and sew together in about three to four hours. Today we went through my stores of fabric and picked out a nice navy blue cotton with a satinlike steel gray for the lining and trim... By noon we had it all cut out and the bodice partially sewn.

A half hour of fighting with the contrast trim on the top of the bodice because my hands were shaking too badly, and we went for matching bias tape instead. I left my daughter to do a couple seams and pin the bias tape... it was flat bias tape though, not folded, and it fought her tooth and nail. It was not until I had half of it secured in place with Stich Wichery (iron on fabric 'glue') that I realized that it was missing a top securing seam to keep the bodice top line from wrinkling or fighting the bias tape... it went down hill from there. The end result was not an even top line that looked horrible.

I have missed my hubby's day off work, I hurt so bad I want to cry. We have wasted five or six yards of fabric. And I just sent my kid to Walmart to go buy a dress for the wedding she is attending.

Good news is that my vicoden has shipped. It shipped yesterday so I should see it by Monday...

yadlim
billwfriend
billwfriend
Goodest thing is the meds are coming.
Jenna77
Jenna77
Oh yadlim! i am so sorry the dress didn't work out after all of your hard work! I can only imagine how frustrated you are! I am glad that you did throw in the towel and send her to Walmart. They have some super nice choices.there. I shop there myself!! I am sorry you missed hubby's day off work as I know how important that bonding time can be. Please don't think of yourself as not pulling through and not bonding with you daughter. She wirll appreciate what you did for her!! I am happy your meds have shipped and you won't have to stretch them anymore. Withdrawals of any kind be bad.

I hope you start feeling better soon!

Love and gentle hugs,
Jenna
annettearizona
annettearizona
You know a place with nice dresses and not expesive is second hand stores...when you're feeling better you and your daguhter csn still make that dress-I'm SURE it can be used in future occassions
jasmine0523
jasmine0523
Yadlim I am so sorry you hurt. I am sure you will have many more opportunities to bond with your daughter, but whether you realize it or not just spending time with each other is a priceless thing. I agree with Annette. Consignment and gently worn clothing stores have beautiful clothing. When I was working, I had a friend that earned 6 figures a year who only bought her clothes in these types of stores.
Your meds are on their way so dry your tears my friend.
yadlim
yadlim
In the end, she only got shoes new, the dress she got is cute as heck and from a second hand store for $13. There were a whole bunch of that dress there in a few colors, so she also bought me one in a deep burgundy. I am not sure where I am going to wear a semi-formal dress, but it fits and looks really nice - so it made me smile.

Though my meds have shipped, they are not here yet. At best I could have them on Tuesday. The mailman won't come to the house to get the signature so she will leave a slip in the mailbox for me to pick up the next day.

I have one tab of vicoden left... the next few days are going to suck.
billwfriend
billwfriend
wow sorry they did not get delivered on Saturday....
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