Chronic Pain Support Group
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Because of something i said... I received an abuse letter. I am very upset by this because all I have wanted to do was help people. I have spent years here at DS and countless hours writing posts (often hours for research and then the post) which I do love. I take the time and energy because its the people on DS that have helped me and understood me when no one else would or could. I wish there was a way to go back in time- past this last month- to see that I am not here to hurt or abuse anyone. I am sorry if anyone felt that way. It really isnt my intention. I dont come here to do that.
I received the abuse letter in my personal email ( I was surprised by that) and since I hadn't been there for a long time ( 400 or so unread messages) I was shocked to see something like this. I got so upset I clicked out and now realize that there could still be another one in there ( this letter was one of the most recent so yeah, I have about 390 left to read) so its possible.
We all have to decide for ourselves what is right and my personal choice is still the same...I wont use the abuse button and use the ignore button instead. I still don't want a CL ( I know thats not for everyone and thats fine) because I think we all need to be able to talk freely about what we want with out policing. I enjoy that right as an adult (just like I assured my parents that when I grew up I was only going to eat pizza, candy and ice cream every day!) I just had high hopes that would be possible- we are all level headed.
I feel sad that I made someone feel that something I said was abuse. I dont know what it was- I wish I was told first about it --I am not a mean person- I say how I feel but I will still listen to feelings. If a person is genuine to me - I will be genuine as well because I respect that. It seems like no one wants to talk to each other anymore. Instead its abuse.
I think its best for me to leave here because I really *treasure* the friends ( (GREAT friends)) I have made here and I DONT WANT TO TAKE ANY CHANCES! DS / CP board may get back on the right track some day.
Well ...its 6am ... I think I can sleep now...time to stop crying... time to hoist up the big girl panties.
Night all... and thanks for reading.
I received the abuse letter in my personal email ( I was surprised by that) and since I hadn't been there for a long time ( 400 or so unread messages) I was shocked to see something like this. I got so upset I clicked out and now realize that there could still be another one in there ( this letter was one of the most recent so yeah, I have about 390 left to read) so its possible.
We all have to decide for ourselves what is right and my personal choice is still the same...I wont use the abuse button and use the ignore button instead. I still don't want a CL ( I know thats not for everyone and thats fine) because I think we all need to be able to talk freely about what we want with out policing. I enjoy that right as an adult (just like I assured my parents that when I grew up I was only going to eat pizza, candy and ice cream every day!) I just had high hopes that would be possible- we are all level headed.
I feel sad that I made someone feel that something I said was abuse. I dont know what it was- I wish I was told first about it --I am not a mean person- I say how I feel but I will still listen to feelings. If a person is genuine to me - I will be genuine as well because I respect that. It seems like no one wants to talk to each other anymore. Instead its abuse.
I think its best for me to leave here because I really *treasure* the friends ( (GREAT friends)) I have made here and I DONT WANT TO TAKE ANY CHANCES! DS / CP board may get back on the right track some day.
Well ...its 6am ... I think I can sleep now...time to stop crying... time to hoist up the big girl panties.
Night all... and thanks for reading.
I hope you get to feeling better and change your mind.
I do think we are all entitaled to our own opinion and feelings and as adults can agree to disagree, without abusing the abuse button on every little thing.
I do love the dancing cow!!
I don't know you personally, but I can tell that you are the kind of person that wears her heart on the sleeve, and that you are not afraid to stand for what's wrong, and what you see as abuse. I have gone back and looked at some of your posts and I still don't see the so called "abuse".
If this is the first time that you receive one of those "reprimand message", know that I also received one about 2 months ago, and I still don't know why? Your support, humor and knowledge is needed here, so I will ask you politely, to please, please reconsider leaving DS.
I know that we shouldn't have to use the ignore feauture if everyone could take the healthy arguments that we sometimes have, and don't run to the "principal's Office" (DS)" every single time, but you and I know that is going to be impossible to have that, since I know that, I have put several members on ignore, I can't see what they say, can't hear what they say, and I can't talk about what they say, and I like it like that!
I got a little too invloved in the back and forth that happens here, so after taking a good luck at myself, I decided to not be part of it. We need your dancing cow, we need you, and I know that since you are in chronic you also need us. Please re-consider your decision.
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Tipper
Big HUGS,
Toni
If you still feel that you need a hiatus, please remember that we love you and will be thinking of you..
Hugs,
Deb
Hugs,
Theresa
Stick around, PLEASE?? If we keep losing people over all this mess, this place will just fall apart. Don't let them WIN!!! Please stay? God bless. Hugs, Lee
However, I must also say that I agree with what you posted about leaving. After coming on this board the other day and seeing that foolishness is still going on (and that is what it is, in my opinion), I told myself that I was not going to come here again because I am afraid to click on ANY post because I never know what I am going to hear next and it has too often been more of the same ole-same ole. I was talking to one of my dear friends from this board for quite a while because I was so upset by what this particular message board has become and I have stayed out of all discussions (and am hesitant to even reply to this) because because I have been praying that people stop reacting to the reactions of reactors and that simply has not been happening. It makes me sad.
But then I said to myself, I will just do what I can to support who I can and pretend like the rest of this stuff is not still going on. (That's why I'm whining about my bed now.LOL)
Don't leave. We need you. I find your posts valuable and informative and it is quite obvious how much you care for everyone whenever you post. The rest will come out in the wash...
I have been thinking the same thing about leaving as I also recd an abuse ltr in my personal email. I was very upset at first and then became very angry. I am more than certain I know who rptd me as being abusive and I sent a response to DS asking for an example of what I had written, I still have not gotten a response to date.
It seems to me that a certain someone is reporting alot of ppl and it the same old ppl that are causing the disruptions are still here. I know that this should be a safe place where we can be honest but if we cannot be honest here about our situations/opinions, where have the group at all? I have found myself being guarded as to what I say in my posts, as well as how I respond to others, which makes me sad. I am a survivour of a very abusive relationship and this I am in no way abusive to anyone in anyway.
Maybe I am not a good fit for this group, which saddens me as there are many great ppl that have really helped me alot.