Yes, I had that happened to me once at a Publix supermarket, and OH MY GOD............ that person probably wanted to dig a hole in the parking lot when I was done with her! LOL!
She did not notice my cane, all she saw was a young woman in shorts and a tank top, that was it! Nothing else! Oh boy, I let her have it! WTF? I could look at a person that has a handicap sticker and not know what they have,..... What if they have heart problems? COPD? Whatever! Who am I to be disrespectful to people that I do not know??!!
Hu, the next time that this happened to you, let them have it! They will learn not to mess with you, OK? Take care,

I did let her have it but she wasn't really listening I found it kinda amusing. I am one of those that finds people going off on me amusing I worked telemarketing and I worked at walmart for 6 years so i just get use to it. I kinda expect it to happen but never thought it would lol

i'm only 28 and i get that from ANYONE OVER THE AGE OF 30!!! any time i say i hurt, someone says "just wait till you get to be my age and you have bursitis" when i tell them i do have bursitis they don't belive me and tell me to get a dictionary!!!

Why in the world wouldn't you take the handicap spots whenever you go to the store???? I am confused by this. Those spots are for people, like you, who need them. Not simply the elderly. You don't have to apologize for anyone for using them, nor avoid them unless it is a rainy day. My sister was honorable discharged from the army when she was 25. She looked young and healthy...but he ankle was destroyed. She has had to wear a brace on her ankle ever since. Trained herself to go without her cane most of the time. She didn't have any problem at all using the handicap spots, as she has a permanent sticker.
Stop worrying about what others think and use the flipping spots! You have bad knees (and I'm sure other things must bother you). Stop putting yourself through needless pain. You are suffering enough.
I am sorry you encountered one of the eggheads of the world. How rude. How stupid it is for people to assume and judge because "you are young," as if only the elderly have the right to be sick or in pain. What a nincompoop.
I hope you are feeling better about things today. Water off a duck back, and all that.
Huggggssss to you.

Dear loveb, i am sorry that happened and yes it has happened to me. Some people out there are just nuts. I agree with tipper. They are what i call do-good-ers, they do no one any good at all. People cannot tell by looking what is wrong with me so they should all keep their mouths shut. Big Hug

Sorry that had to happen to you. People don't seem to realize that you don't have to have to have a wheelchair, walker, or cane to be handicapped. I've had days where my lower back has made it such a struggle to stand upright that I'm winded by the time I get to the door, even from a handicapped spot. I wish people would just mind their own business. If they see someone in a handicapped spot without a placcared or plate, then say something.

People don't understand, so forget it. Even you can walk, doesn't mean you should lift say 10 lbs. They don't care, some people need to vent and you were there.

Yeah I know people need to vent its just crazy. Deputy I was saying I only use it when I need to use or if there is a spot right next to it I will use that one instead because its still close. I never feel bad for using one I just couldn't believe I got confronted like that. I thought it was pretty funny I look at negitive situations as funny. I even make jokes about my disability its either you laugh or you cry about it. But I went off on the lady and she saw me struggling getting into my car and she was like on I didn't realize that you were that bad. people these days lol.

Oh yes, I've been there too. I'm picture-perfect looking healthy on the outside. I have a permanent parking pass, but like you, only use it when I absolutely need to. There was a post on here a long time ago, you might be able to find it by doing a search or something, but it was geared towards clever things to say when idiots like the one you encountered open their big mouths. My Lisa original favorite came on a day I was going to Wal-Mart to buy feminine products. It was already a bad pain day to begin with, and with my period coming, my nerve pain was a ton more through the roof than on a normal bad pain day. I'm usually great at hiding my pain but couldn't even hide a tiny bit of it this day. Some random nincompoop said, "You don't look disabled" in a very disgusting, accusatory way. Without even thinking, I spit back, "You don't look stupid." Hahaha, oh how I laughed the rest of the day with that one. It still makes me chuckle and smile a few years later. My favorite thing is how a lot of people treat you like you are mentally handicapped when you park in a handicapped spot. Gee, I wouldn't be driving if that was the case. I used to ignore people and their rude comments but I've found it much more satisfying to say something back. One of my all-time favorite activities is making dbags and B's feel like the dbags and B's that they are. They really do make it easy, hehe. I'm glad you didn't keep quiet. People like that deserve to be made to feel like the kind of miserable person they are. Eh, such is life. Things like this just make me happier than I already am to be myself and have my brain and my heart. Stay strong my friend! I hope your pain has eased down to a "normal" level again!

Much love and understanding,

Lisa

Lovebaby8:

One thing Ive learned in my 45 years of life is certain people are IDIOTS and this is something everyone has to live with, unfortunately. This is one of the reasons I do not have a handicapped sticker, and I need one. I have so many things wrong with my spine which is DDD, Spondylosis, two failed cervical surgeries, and now all of this is affecting my lower back along with Fibromyalgia. My husband keeps telling me I need one because sometimes my lower back and my legs get so bad Im afraid that I wont even make it up the stairs in my house. I know that if I get a sticker, people will look at me and wonder why in the hell I have it. On the outside I look fine, its what is going on, on the inside that is the problem. Because these people cannot see what is going on, on our inside they feel they have the right to be complete IDIOTS to us really ticks me off. I do know at some point in time I am going to have to get a sticker, but I am trying to hold off as long as I can.

You need this sticker; there is no reason why you shouldnt use it. Do not let the morons of the world stop you from using it. Trust me if they were in your body they would probably park in the fire zone so they could go into the store and feel justified. It is really sad that some people in this world feel they have the right to ostracize people because they feel superior. Just be strong and realize you are doing what is best for you and they can all go to hell, Kim.

You should have asked her how long it took her to get her
Parking Nazi license.

I parked once in a handicapped spot and some guy parked behind me and waited for me to come out of the store because my sticker was not displayed properly. When I came out, he said that I was breaking the law and being discriminatory against handicapped people and I should go to jail and he called the police and he was not moving his truck until they got there. He was hoopin and walking and movin around and his wife was backing him up with her big mouth! He had a super jacked up Ford F350 truck with a handicapped sticker in it. Unless they give those out for being an asshole...I could not tell you what his disability was.

My handicapped sticker had falled off my rear view mirror and was laying on the seat! AND...he was so busy trying to give me the what for that he did not even notice that I was using my cane and my walker was folded up in the back of my truck. I continued to my car, opened up, picked up my sticker and said to him in the calmest voice
"When you are done being an ass, I would be happy to give you my spot"

Even if you did appear to be handicapp does anyone care?
People simply amaze me. I was feeling a mess one morning but had promised to go with my BF to take her cousins daughters shopping for school. These girls go without more often then not so I did not want to disappoint.

Anyways coming out there was a lady I would say in her 30s in a cervical collar & using a cane with 2 small children of her own. she could not seem to push the cart & stood in the entry way hunched over, very easy to see she was struggling.
I stood in the doorway waiting for my friend to finish cashing out & not one person stopped to ask if she needed help. Not even the employee who was at the door. I could not believe it as this lady stood there for the longest time & people looked back at her but no one stopped. she was leaninig on her cane & her kids hanging onto the cart.
Soon as my friend was done I went right over to the lady & asked if I could help her to the car. I felt myself so disappointed that not one person stopped the entire time I stood there. I did walk her & her children & helped her unload her car. On the way she spoke about her surgeries as she was on her 4rth & had both lumbar & cervical & RSD.
The young girls who were with me asked why did I help this lady? Did I know her? I said nope but she needed help & I would hope someone would offer to help me if I needed it. They thanked me for taking them shopping & ask if they could buy me a present someday. I said nope but you can remember this day & perhaps offer to help someone in need. That would be my gift.
What are we teaching our children when we walk past those in need our judge others such as you in your situation?

So sad that people cannot be just a bit more nice & take a bit more time to help one another.

In response to the lady I would have said yes I am handicapp & looks like you are too. Last I heard you can get hurt or become disabled at any age.

Its offensive to be spoke to like that, especially when you live in pain every day of your life. I'll bet you were steaming. I would be especially if it was that time of the month,lol.
Ain't life grand!
We just have to ignore stupidity as it comes in all shapes & forms.
God bless, Sammy

I have gotten that crap all my life. Doc yelling at me your too young to be in pain all the time and blah blah, I look young for my age and that doesn't help any. I don't have a disabled plate, thou there has been many days when my kness flare up and I can hardly walk that I think about asking my doctor for one, but I guess I just don't want to admit that I am dsiabled, I am too proud and prideful, and I'd rather hurt my self walking across a parking lot then admit that I am a disabled.

I would have just ingored that lady and walked away and let her be an idiot, some people can never admit when there wrong. I am sorry your going through all that

I teach middle school student with mild to moderate cognitive disabilities. Which, in real language, means they are mentally handicapped but are aware and know when they are being picked on. And, they do get picked on. Called retarded or stupid... they come to me crying. I tell them what I will tell you. I wish I could just put all the mean people on an island so they couldn't be mean to us anymore. They can just be mean to each other. But I can't do that. The reality is that there are just mean people in the world and there is nothing you can do about it. So, you have to decide the best way to handle it. Now, let me get out of my middle school teacher voice. As a grown woman, having another grown woman try to tell me what I can or can't do, I probably would have made her cry. But, we all handle things differently. I am sorry that happened. Things like that have a way of sticking with you. Try to shake it off. You just came across a woman that should be on the island.

I agree and yes, I have had this happen, but with a twist. Someone upbraided me for parking in handicapped parking--- and I was several parking spaces over and NOT in handicapped parking. How about that? LOL!

I strongly prefer to ignore them as they aren't worth any explanation.

I do have 2 friends who are guilty of this behavior. I try to teach them that not every disability is obvious and not every afflicted person is old as dirt.

Mind your own business people!