Kitty, I'm sorry to hear that your husband does not understand, or care to try to understand. I pray that your doctor will be understanding and give you something to get you through. I will pray that your husband gets some compassion and helps you some. I just can't understand how someone would do this to the one that they love.

I'm sorry if I seem to be nosing in, but where does your husband get off shirking his duties as an occupant of the house? Or the wedding vows (...in sickness and in health)?

I'd dare him to "kick you out", and let a Judge get a hold of that one. I think he's be packing.


BTW- do you know how many real men it takes to clean a toilet?

None; That's women's work....

-Snake

Why are you tolerating this type of treatment from your husband?

With fibro and other painful conditions, sometimes we must relax our standards some. If he is the only one working outside of the home, than it makes sense that you would do most of the cleaning. If you both work outside the house, it should be shared. If you can afford it, consider hiring a maid once per week or two.

You need and deserve to have your pain treated adequately. There is no reason to live in pain. This is the 21st century. If your doctor does not want to prescribe strong enough pain meds, you may need to find a different doctor. Are you seeing a pain management specialist? Most other docs do not Rx schedule II opioids.

Kitty,
I have to say ditto to what Snake and Chronic just said. If you are working and so is he, then the cleaning should be shared, and when you two got married was "in sickness and in health", right??? So why is he treating you this way?
I am so sorry that you are going through all of this pain, plus a jerk that treats you like the cleaning lady that you're not, it is shame! Hugs coming your way.....

I cant work cause of my pain and my hubby thinks he brings in the bacon he doesnt have to lift a finger thats the problem I dont ask much but help me with the hard stuff like sweeping and moping and vacuming cuz he insits we have a kirby the heaviest dam vacum cleaner Ive ever used and just a little understanding when I have a bad day or Im ill with a cold I can take the day off. he is reall putting pressure on me to clean the walls and ceilings and it would be just easier to paint over them and his brother has offered to do it but he says no when I wind up in the hospital maybe he will see cause Im doing as he ask with no reguards to my pain and when I have to go to the hospital he will think twice about asking too much of me.

Hi folks, I'm an old guy with fibro and I wandered in here to see whats going on, I hope I'm not just snooping.
I read all the posts, everytime I think of early cronic pain sufferers especially young couples, I don't know how you guys hold out.
It seems almost impossible that two humans can live togeather succesfully with lifes complications then throw in pain (the invisable disease) wow communication is hard enough , wow.
I've been married to the same wonderful girl for 50 years, I wish I had some real words of wisdom to pass on, Eat your spinish or something simple like that, it just ain't simple.
How do we do it? We talk alot, yep we (mostly I) never stop trying to explain and (mostly she) never stops trying to understand.
As for the debris Each of us try to take a stab at it as much as we can then we kick it aside and love each other.
I hope you make it, seems like if you can't make this relationship work, which one will you make work?
It's easy (NOT). If you've seen that cartoon of the frog half way down the throat of that bird with it's (the frogs) hands firmly around the throat of the bird the caption reads " Never give up!". My wife and I mention that cartoon often.
Hope I didn't butt in, see you later

fA