Good grief...no way should you have to do that....cp is enough..you don't need to be doing things that make it worse such as you described.

I think the suggestion of just say NO is a good one, not necessarily easy but what price do you want to pay with your body???

Enough is enough already!!!

I'm so sorry you're in this mess:(:(

I'm so sorry. Like others that have replied, I wish I had some words of comfort to offer. It can be so hard to say no - especially when those who are supposed to put your well-being ahead of their own do not. CP is a vicious cycle and I wish will all my heart that people would be more understanding. I can relate to wanting your life (and home) back! In my opinion you can cry all you want. You've earned each and every tear.

For so long i pushed through because i couldn't say no to my family, but there came a time with my husbands support that i finally did. And lord does it feel good!!! I was no more thought of when i was doing everything that was asked of me until finally enough was enough. I know it can be hard but you have to do it for your sake cause nobody else will!!! Anyway goodluck and be strong xx

I havent told him im not going yet, kinda scared. thanks for all kind words.

Know that we are with you and stand firm.

I completely agree with all ... say NO ... you will get better at it.

The only other option of course, is to go ... ( how important is it to your husband?) How often does this happen to you? ( this cleaning - OVER THE TOP -- type stuff?) This pressure and expectations of you? If this is a once in awhile ... can you try and go? (ducking head)
I totally understand and let me say this ... I bow out of stuff all the time... if this is going to piss off the H and its always been a huge issue with him ( biggest issue he has for the most part) and its only once in awhile... maybe try... maybe pretend you are working -when they look - LOL try everything not to OVER DO... or even DO if ya can get away with it... ha ... but you DID go.

If it doesn't really make a dent in any problems between the two of you, then screw it and stay home and take care of your sore bod... heck with them.

lladyfair's response has brought back a memory to me which took a long time in the making. It was my decision to put a stop to all who made unreasonable demands upon me.

I define an unreasonable demand as being something I am asked to do for another that would cause me harm in any way. Basically, don't allow yourself to get hurt physically or emotionally by another person who does not seem to have any regard for your well being.

He was mad at me when I said i wasnt going, I said, you seem to forget I have chronic pain and last time I went all I did was work and I paid for it for days. No comment from him.
He didnt go, he doesnt feel well, now I have to be with a crabby sick person all weekend, oh and my computer is down, im at the library.
I hope that he feels better and we can do something together, our marriage isnt too good.
I start my 3 full days( I was working 5-5 hr days) nect week, hope I can do it, or I have to find another job, and they pay me good and have health ins. Pray for me, thanks.