so honor, would you be going up saturday and spending one night and most of sunday? plus 2 1/2 hours each way...that's a hard decision.

do you like them? are you going to get to see them much more? are they accomodating/understanding of your pain?

that's such a tough call. i hope you can work it out.

Yea, not cool, should be compromise, im sorry honey people dont get it, wat we go through. Hope it works out!

Your hubby sounds a bit like mine, he's not a CPer so he has no understanding & unlucky for me he won't even try to understand. I agree w/Serenity though if you like them & age/health wise you might want to go but if they are anything like my in-laws well even with the mother-in-law in not so good shape I'd tell him to go without me. It's a hard decision but I know you'll make the best & right one for you....

Me, clean clean clean (been down glued to couch for about 2 weeks now & hubby was really sick the 2 weeks prior so the house is more like a barn if not worse) then Bake, bake & bake some more so that Easter morning I can finish cleaning & then cook, cook, cook. I always make plates for some of my neighbors in the apartments since there are quite a few older men that live alone & have no one & even though hubby has a fit I just...well I'm human. Just hoping that I can get it all done with the pain issues. Thankful my flare seems to be letting up & between that & then new med I am hopeful.

I'm sure I'll talk to all before & probably during but still... Wishing everyone a Happy 'PAINFREE' Easter!!!

we would be leaving friday afternoon, so we would see them friday, all day sat, yes, I like them!
They are getting old and in poor health. They dont understand my pain even though Ive explained it to them numerous times, hubby doesnt seem to get it either(cause I look good and dont cry in pain?)
we'll see what happens, if he doesnt agree to leave sat am I may not go.

Hi Honor. This is a tough call. If you don't go, will you feel guilty? If not, I sure wouldn't subject myself to the long car ride and crummy beds. A shame your husband won't even compromise. Sheesh!

I hope it works out for you. Best wishes for a low pain day, Dianna

Tough call there but I hope the two of you can compromise...that's an very long ride in a less than comfy vehicle:(:(

No plans here, just the usual stuff, at least I don't have a dinner to worry about:)

Eearly morning choir service.
Late morning choir service
Lunch choir service
Sleep
that about does it!!!

Opps hit enter too soon

Love singing all day long. Tired after though.
I get to sit!
Hope this year I can make it thru. Last year was a flop. Had to leave early. And I sing the really high notes in The Messiah Halleluiah chorus.

Anyone know why we stand for that part?
Anyone wanna know?

You have to weigh the pros and cons. If you go and have severe pain because of it, will hubby think you're blaming him? If so, then stay home.

If you stay home, will he be mad and embarrassed that he had to explain your absence to everyone, and explain that you really do love them, you just hurt too bad to travel? If so, then go.

I know my dear hubby gets angry when I send mixed messages like "I'm OK", then wince in pain when he's not looking, but sometimes he sees anyway. He also doesn't like me to play the martyr. So I just tell him it hurts, but there's nothing he can do to "fix" it, and that just being with him makes me feel better, even though he's not doing anything to help my pain.

And by all means, don't hide your pain. That's a hard thing for any of us to do, and you'll feel better if you don't have to "act" better than you feel. On days when I'm feeling better, my hubby askes over and over again "Are you REALLY feeling better?" It's better in the long run to just tell it like it is.

Good luck, whatever you decide.

Honor I am a bit bugged at your hubby saying "im not leaving early Sunday morning if that's what u want don't even bother coming"

He already has this all planned out without taking u and your pain into consideration. Makes me sad :( I wouldn't go! I would stay home watch movies take a hot bath and do what you want. Enjoy the peaceful feeling of being alone.
Please don't think I am harsh I just don't like him saying "don't even bother coming"
Xoxo

Oh yeah, my plans for Easter. Well, our daughter and her husband will be in Ranger Stadium watching the Texas Rangers play. And our son and his wife can't come (96 miles each way) because of his wife's job. So yippee! I don't have to be on my feet for hours, then down for 2 days. This is a first. My husband and I will just be chillin' on Easter!

Singing, singing,singins
Then just for fun a little more singing.
Then a LONG nap!!!

I did end up going, I stuffed 3 pillows around and in back of me, My hubby asked me to ask his Mom what I could do for her, oh I guess I came up to work, I ended up vacuming and washing all her wood blinds, now my shoulder that occasionally acts up is very screwed up, oh, and he said Im selfish! My huby is not usually a dink, but SO isnt empathetic to my pain. He did thnak me after the weekend was over.