Shared on Facebook.. maybe my family will read it? :p

Recently I have come to need my children more than ever before. I found it embarrassing so found myself apologizing over and over for burdening them when in truth now should be the time of them building on their dreams, not worrying about mom. In trying to explain myself, this really isn't going to be easy on any of them, I was told by each of them now that it hurts them to hear me be sorry as if there was any question of my need or their help, even if they had a few squabbles between themselves working out the details. I am truly blessed to have such wonderful children who love me and are really there for me. Family really is everything.

To answer your question manny......no I don't. I'm a pretty strict mom and I know my kids would jump on that and take advantage of it if they ever thought I gave in because I felt bad. But I can see how many would out of guilt....would be very easy to do!!

I guess there is nothing I can do about my dh's worrying:(

But something I have done over the past two years is make my life easier to some extent and that is to empty out my house!
I make housecleaning simple. I have hardwood floors that I can just take a dust mop too when needed. I dont' have a bunch of nicknacks to dust and clean ( they would just get broken anyway with boys)
I keep only what I need in the kitchen. If I don't use it in a year it goes! The list is endless of changes I've made but you get the point.

The one thing I don't feel guilty about is making the kids do stuff. They want extra spending money they get to do a chore that I can't do, like cleaning the bathroom shower. So that works for both of us!

For those of you who don't have kids to help....
Can you trade out anything? Could you do someones laundry for them if they could clean the bathroom for you?
Or mop your floors for a couple hours of baby sitting so the couple could go out?
Things like that might help us feel better about asking for help.
Just a thought.
I know I can't ask for help. But my day is coming:(

Keeping it simple is such a great suggestion, I try but I am a hopeless collector, I love vintage crap LOL I have Pyrex that I dont use just for display and I am a owl freak so I have those. I really wish I could do the simple thing as I bet it would be so much easier in the end.

This si great.
I feel like I could reply to each of you.....
We really are all in the same boat to one degree or another!
Manny.......yes, I do the giving from guilt thing.......and my kids are adults!
Dix......My husband's a "fixer", too........hates the helplessness.
I try to always remember to let him know he's still my knight.
Hugs.....jc.
Oh...Eeyow.........in some ways, I think this must be harder for men

yep , if your a collector, your a hopeless case manny LOL,
I have a friend who collects. She has stacks all through her house because she long ago ran out of room! She is going to leave her kids millions though as she has collect lots of valuable stuff!

I'm luck that I don't get attached to stuff like that. My problem was crafts for a long time, but I have even gotten rid of most all of that!

Oh, and littledeb.....the re ersal of roles with kids? Hard......

Just saw that Manny n Dix were talkin' while I was typing.
Manny, I'm a collector of a few things.....mostly vintage and antique.
Like Dixie......I'm finding that less is more in my surroundings now.
Hugs.....jc..