Cherry,
I think things have settled down but trere will be times of clashes. For the most part I think we're OK.
Ignore,ignore, ignore.
David.

I had just read a few posts...back and forth and they were recent. I gotta thicken my skin, I guess.

Thanks, David. I appreciate your kind ways.

Cherry

This is an active group. Even here at DS there are groups that languish from lack of activity. So we draw some real nutters who desire something other than support for honest chronic pain.

If you can take what you need and leave the rest, it helps with facing those in the world who do the same things.

Then there is the wonderful ignore button. What a lifesaver that one is!

Glad that you are here!
Sunny

Thanks, Sunny. I always appreciate your posts. I have yet to discover all the 'buttons'! Yup...technology isn't my area of expertise!

Pain, I understand too well.

Cherry

With so many different people who have a variety of problems, there will be personality clashes from time to time. I've seen it go through several cycles of conflict and I've only been on this Board since Dec. I try to be supportive to everyone, to express my opinion honestly but gently and then let it go. Most people do not mean to be abrasive but with CP comes irritability (as you probably well know). Sometimes it spills over. If things do start to get to me, I remind myself of all the good I've found here, the loving supportive people who really care are the ones who matter to me!!
Smile (sometimes I get a good laugh at some of the foolishness, better to laugh than frown. I don't need the wrinkles. LOL). Hope you have a wonderful weekend.
Hugs

It seems that there are some people who's participation on DS is not to "promise to be nice" as it states right below this comment box. I come here to be a supportive friend, or to add helpful comments based on my own chronic pain. Sometimes I'm suffering, or sad, or lonely, and there are DS friends who are here to lift my spirits.

So, dear newbie, please know that the vast majority of us are wonderful, kind and compassionate people who suffer from similar ailments. Like someone said, take what you need and ignore what you have to in some threads.

I have not been active on this group because I was scared off by someone's words, but now realize that this is a good place to share, too.

Welcome to DS, and continue to reach out when you need us. We are here to help and be supportive.

Peace,
Pinky

I agree with David IGNORE them if they are annoying you and if the people attack YOU or are mean to YOU then report them to DS as well.

This is an active group - more active than many and there is no moderation (even though they said we would get one we haven't as yet) so people just post whatever they feel like. Sadly many who are in pain tend to react - even over react at times - to things that are posted which makes a problem.

And then of course there are those who are drug-seekers and come on here to find ways to get more drugs out of their doctors (with info about pain problems posted here) - those people make it hard for those of us who do have genuine pain to get the pain meds that we need to live a somewhat average life.

Then there are those who come on here and want to push their ways of doing things. They tend to post large volumes of material they get off the internet about "miracle" cures - most of which are just snake oils to part you with what money you have left after paying for your doctors and meds.

It is hard to sort out the genuine from the crackpots here. the majority are genuine and over time you get to know those who aren't. And things are pretty good at the moment - there tends to be eruptions here now and again when people clash - for now it seems pretty peaceful on the whole.

Cherry the good far outweighs the bad! Remember that. There are many people coming and going in here and that means all types, we just can't let the negative win! As David said ignore it. Look for the sunshine not the clouds.

Hugs,
Toni

I haven't been on alot lately so I don't know what has been going on.

I do have to agree that the good far out ways the bad.

Take what you need and leave the rest.

we are a mixed group of people and we will have times when we don't always agree and those are the times to just ignore things

Welcome to the group.

Hugs & Prayers,
Mary

Yes, I think that at times and then I remember what everyone has been saying, with the amount of people who come and go on here we are bound to get some really hurting people who would rather hurt them help.

You are a great asset to this group and I believe that when we have more honest and caring people on here it sort of pushes the bad out and you will come to see that after they come on here and create a shit storm and then they leave after the havoc with no worse then wear and we are left here to pick up the pieces and when the good go because of it, it leaves the ones that want to stay the only ones loosing.

Like someone said take the good and leave the rest, there is no way to change it so I dont want to say it will never happen again it unfortunately will happen over and over again.

I just try to shake it off and keep on going

Thanks you all so much for your caring responses. Who could possibly leave a group like this???

I'm here to stay and will definitely practice my 'ignore and move on' skills! lol

I can't type much more at the moment as my meds haven't kicked in and I'm in some pretty bad pain. More later...

Cherry

i come on everyday and read 5 or 6 posts and reply i rarely see problems am i blind or lucky lol

Welcome Cherry,
I have just recently returned. For the time I have been a member the good has far outwieghed the few clashes that happen.
I'd say 98% of the members are here for the right reasons :)
You will find amazing support here, and people just like you that really do understand.
Enjoy

This is a public world wide support group. With that comes every personality you can imagine. Naturally, people are going to disagree about things from time to time. It's how they disagree that matters. There is nothing wrong with it as long as everyone is respectful of others and don't start bashing. I don't like that. Everything else I can understand. For the most part this site has been a God send for me and I have gotten so much good out of it.

send them to the naughty corner LOLOL.I did laugh once two members in a discussion got into a very heated discussion I asked if they would like tea..we had cyper drinks all was calm and then they started again LMAO shakes head