Tabby..
It's inappropriate for you to discuss another member of DS by name on the boards.

We all suffer from severe pain on this board..which, of course leads to depression and anger....we don't assault people.

Seek professional help for your " mental health" problems..( if inability to grow up can be called that)
We aren't a mental health or anger management group.

Seriously..seek attention elsewhere.
Worse than assaulting your Mom..who tries to help you..
Is tat the only sorrow you have for it is for yourself.
Anyone shocked or offended by my words doesn't know the patience and kindness I extended to you when you were trying to mqnipulate this board with dishonesty..and I, frankly..did not have te strength to spare..yet, still offered you friendship if you would just be honest.

There's far to much sufferring for those on this board to cater to your self-pity

I am sorry I did not know that you can't say a persons name on the board. I have told my doctor about my pain but they said Theres nothing that hey can do. My mom has told them Thats something is wrong but they don't listen My last doctor Said the pain is caused by stress and my diet I have changed my diet and the pain is still there I have tried Tylenol and Motrin to help ease the pain in my stomach but its not helping. I just don't know what else to do or where to turn. My mom told me to try and focus on something positive instead of on my pain and see if that helps or read a book That it might help

Hey, Tabby, just keep working on those issues. We all have them, some more than others. Focus on positive and not negative. And, noone, not our family, our friends, noone, hon, can be there for all of our needs. It's simply too draining and exhausting for them. This makes us seem "clingy" to them, and they will pull away. We, and we alone, can take the steps to improve our behaviors.
The ol' stress and anxiety will do a number on the tummy. Also, the Tylenol and Motrin has acetiminophen, which can irritate the tummy for lots of us, just as aspirin can, creating more havoc on the tummy.
Strive for the positive, Tabby. It's one step, two step, one step, two step. . . . . . . . . . . sometimes very, very small steps, but one step, two step . . . . . . . .
Hugs)))))

Thanks I will keep working on my issues and maybe once my issues are better maybe my pain will get better to. I have been under a lot of stress lately and that might be whats making everything hurt.. My back and legs have been hurting all morning I have been taking a lot of Tylenol for the pain.

Please stop with these lies. Why would anyone believe you after the outrageous ones you have told here.
I spent the morning reading your other posts. There are some real doozies.

You claim to be living with your rapist who caused you to have two babies on the rape support board.
You claim to be living with abusive adoptive parents on the adoption board.
one baord at the same time you posted here about a doctor doing an ultrasound finding a second twin 5 weeks after you delivered the first twin in the hospital.
On the MRSA board, you claim to have had MRSA.
On the Alhizimers board, you claim to have to take care of your grandmother.
You claim post partum depression on the depression board.
You claim anger issues on the anger support board.
You claim to have whatever issue the board is suppoorting.

The lies were found by the people on the following board:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Pregnancy/forum/13221888-another-baby-way
Hi I am new to this group I had a baby girl five weeks ago I started having severe cramping and pain a few days ago I went to the doctor and they did an ultrasound they found another baby I am in total shock They said that it could come any day I don't understand why they did not find this baby when they did my last ultrasound before my last baby was born
Posted on 11/16/11, 09:48 am

Reply #1 - 11/16/11 2:14pm



Wow that's CRAZY!!! Sometimes it's possible with twin to have one hide behind the other. Other than that I really have no idea, but Good Luck!














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Reply #2 - 11/16/11 4:55pm



Today Has been a really bad day for me. Since about 8.00 I have been feeling terrible I am having a home birth since around 12.00 i have had intense pressure I am really scared I hope my baby comes soon .














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Reply #3 - 11/16/11 8:59pm



How did they not figure it out when they pressed on your belly after your baby was born to get the rest of the placenta out...and every few hours after that?














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Reply #4 - 11/16/11 10:02pm



that was What I was wondering How did they not know It was in there. They said everything was out














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Reply #5 - 11/17/11 7:17am



Yesterday was a a rough day for me woke up at 9.00 with the urge to push I was just geeing into the tub to take a bath when the baby started coming out It was a very quick birth were both doing fine














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Reply #6 - 11/17/11 10:06am



She weighed 4 pounds 5 ounces 18 inches long shes a healthy baby














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Reply #7 - 11/17/11 10:31am



You don't make any sense. You can't hide an 18 inch baby. You claim your baby came at 45 weeks. At 4 pounds 5 oz that is premature, not healthy. You even posted on the parenting forum that you want another baby then you posted that you were in labor with your second baby and you hope it goes fast. I don't think you stopped in the middle of your "fast tub bath birth" to post to a forum you are in labor. I call bs.














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Reply #8 - 11/17/11 9:36pm



Tabby,
If what I think is correct, the level of lying here is really, really concerning. I won't even address the medical impossibility of what you are saying. I think you need some help, I think maybe you are looking for attention?














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Reply #9 - 11/19/11 11:01am



I'm with you there JessAm! She just wants attention and really does need help.














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Reply #10 - 11/19/11 6:43pm



HA HA..Or should I say, 'WOW!'. This seems kinda confusing seeing that u said the doctors say ur new baby should come any day now. Ur baby is just about a month old & ur due any day now with another baby????

This should be a movie but THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS IN REAL LIFE. Hmmm...count it as a blessing as many ppl in this world are unable to conceive.

I just read 'preggymama's response & all I can say is 'Hmmmm?'. Makes one wonder if u should believe everything you read.


Please stop playin with people here. We are in real CP. Typing replies, reading thru stories, all this takes time and energy. You are playing some game and it is really really sick to come here and make up things for attention.

The help that you need can not be found in ON-LINE support groups. I have read all the lies. It is time to stop this and get help. These lies are why no doctor believes you if in fact you are actually telling us anything that is true.
I don't believe anything that you post.

Tabby you've got a lot of things going on, some mental, some medical. Taking tylenol and/or ibuprofen for stomach pain is like throwing gasoline on a fire, it usually makes it worse. Stomach pain reacts to things like antacids, pepcid, zantac, etc. all you can get over the counter.

You've got a lot of mental issues going on, it sounds like you would benefit greatly from a therapist. You need to get yourself taken care of and get your stresses and anger problems under control, all of those things will cause severe stomach pain. Seeing a therapist would benefit you greatly.

Please think about healing yourself and making you a better, healthier person and get some help from a therapist....

Kat

I am sorry I am in pain Thats no lie I have been taking care of my grandma And I have depression I have anger issues I need friends Thats why I came here to find support but If people are going to be mean I will Just leave this group and never come back I just want people who care about me Thats all

I was talking to a Therapist on here but I lied to her about being raped and having kids and much more and now she does not want to help me I feel like she does not love me anymore.

Tabby,

Listen to me, and yes I'm being stern here, not mean, but stern. I believe you that your sorry your in pain, the thing is you don't owe us an apology for your pain. Stop apologizing, unless you caused the pain intentionally, stop apologizing. People here are showing alot of hurt feelings for things that have happened in the past. I'm new around here...I've read your journals, I've "heard" you today....I get both sides. But, YOU, have got to stop putting your issues and pain and problems off on other people and take care of yourself.

Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, can make you better or help you get over your past, or help you learn to live with your present illnesses and mental disorders, and you have several things to deal with. The only person that can do that is you. You have to get psychiatric help, you have to do the work to grow, mature, and get healthier. You have to help yourself and until you do that and learn how to "be" with other people and how to "treat" other people, your probably going to get some of this reaction. Your not a stupid girl, you know that some of what your doing and how your acting can be controlled if you try hard enough, and you know that there is help out there for you, but you have to be willing to do the hard work it takes to get better, that's all on you. Nobody is going to feel sorry for you, when you won't do what you need to, in order to get better, you have to understand that.

People don't want to be mean. They want to be loving and supportive and caring....but you can't abuse those things and still have nice people to care about you, it doesn't work that way.

Now you need to wrap this thread up, because it's not getting you the kind of attention you want, or need. You need to start today, right now, find a therapist, call and make an appointment and start making you the nice, healthy, happy person that you can be.

Take care,

kat

Okay thanks Your right I have to do the work nobody can do it for me. And I have to see a therapist taking through a phone a text won't help I guess I will have to make some phone calls and see if I can find someone who can help me.

Tabby,

You don't talk to therapists and Dr.s on here, this is not a hospital or a clinic, it's a website. You talk to therapists and Dr.'s in the real world. And if you choose to lie to them, then they can't help you and you'll continue to get worse and allianate everyone you come in contact with, that's just fact. People, any people don't like being lied too, tricked or conned....but you know that, your not stupid.

I'm not going to continue this, I've given you the best heartfelt advice that I could. I don't think giving you more attention is doing you any good. You need to quit hiding on this website playing mindgames with people and get real help in the real world, you've got some major problems, you need psychiatric help.

I wish you well.

Kat

The therapist that I was taking to on here Told me she has a business called Sister I need you So I connected and she gave me her cell number and everything I started taking to her and we became friends Now she hardly is ever on here anymore I miss taking to her She was so nice and cared about me But The last text I sent her made her mad and I have not heard from her since She was going to help me with my issues of anger and depression.

Is anyone else having... Deja Vu with this situation?

I know there are people here that know what I mean if they think about it.

There were a lot of sore heads for awhile due to banging them against the wall.

tabby, it's normal to feel like a therapist doesn't love you..

if they did, by nature the agreement at that point would be no higher than an evening's bid on a prostitute. medical professionals that you PAY for are not going to "love" you. that would be not only indecent, but illegal.

you don't need love from a therapist, you need wisdom and never the twain SHOULD meet, tabby.

never. and as you grow and awaken, i hope that you can get over your unrealistic need for a love that doesn't exist. the kind of "love" you're talking about doesn't happen. you expect a totally unconditional servitude from those around you, even the professional help you have employed. this is not the kind of love that fills your soul, it's the kind that leaves you totally empty.

you're doing nothing for love other than being a continuous vacuum and void for it. it's not going to get better until you learn a real way to compose yourself in all interpersonal relationships. even love is reciprocal and by nature, NOT FREE.

you've gotta quit taking so much out of other people.... no wonder they are running for the hills, dear.

i guess, i'm out of the game here too, because i've already told you the only thing that can help you.


until you become a whole person and learn to love yourself, NO ONE else will get very far in the endeavor.

there are many kinds of love. the first one we all hopefully receive is the "unconditional love" from our parents. until we have children of our own, we do not typically enjoy that kind of love from elsewhere. when we do get back to it, it comes from our resources now the tables are turned and while it's the same time of love, you experience it quite differently than you did as a child. it's yada-yada... the order of life.

betwixt and between we become involved in many different types of love. we have dear friendships that while monogamous mean the world to us. this is close to that pure, unconditional love from our from our parents. but, it differs in a huge way. it is not unconditional. our friends like us for the people we are, but also the way we treat them as people and the ethics and goals we epitomize. you can't put expectations on a friendship that you would like to be long lasting and you can't manipulate your friends into giving you anything more than what they feel like giving you. in friends you must account for dozens of other things that don't make the love any less valid, but simply a two way street. if you mistreat friends they are likely to "abandon ship" in a way your parents will not have made you ready for.

you shouldn't be spoiled by the parental love that is your birthright, you should learn from it. i just can't help but feel as though you real age is closer to 14 as i'm saying all of this. onward... not relevant.

at some point we feel a twitterpation and attraction to another person sexually. as many a pop song will tell you, this is when the notion of broken hearts comes into play. this form of love is terribly conditional and even superficial in its own beginnings the younger you are when you discover it. you may feel this love alone many, many times before ever meeting anyone who returns the sentiment. while everything turns into marshmallows an daisies at this point, the reality is that both of you are still, however unconsciously, involved in a big (one of our biggest choices, really) choice for yourselves. sometimes a flippant day can shatter it and sometimes it lasts for ever, but not without diligent work. beyond diligent work, mutual goals and feelings for the institution of love you have built, counseling, communication and the like may not be enough here. romantic relationships are totally voluntary and may be dissolved at any time, by either party with or without consent. true romantic and sexual love and partnerships are often compared to a garden. if not fed, weeded and cherished the love of your life may wither away. once that happens, there is very little on your side in the way of forcing reality into your vision.

don't jump ahead of yourself or expect others to. your parents should have been plenty of demonstration for you about how love does and does not work. you're holding your friends and even some professionals to a completely unrealistic standard. out of the love and care you have been given, no matter how puny you think it is right now, you should have forced a way to give yourself the unconditional love they taught you about. you have to figure this out. nothing, absolutely nothing will be to your liking until you figure out how to be the bottomless well of love in your own life.

asking anyone to fill that role for you is going to give you more and more of what you've been seeing. without love for yourself, you practically advertise a dangerous and sad situation for others. nurture yourself... OTHERS will fall into place, tabby.