Praying for you and your recovery. You have had so much on your plate at one time. May God's peace and love surround you. It's so great that your DIL is close to you. Hoping your son gets much needed help. Take care of yourself and try not to stress (although that is so difficult) but your DIL is a real blessing. Lots of prayers and hugs. We are all here for you

If you are very uncomfortable please let your Dr know. Praying for you.

I called the doctor and they said it's still within normal expected pain. It is in place while the kidney and bladder heals because incisions were made so that the 3rd kidney will have proper drainage. He needs the stent to stay in for 6 weeks so that the urine passes through the stent and not directly down the ureter while incisions are healing. The stone was broken up and removed completely but the stent has to stay in place because it was necessary to make cuts so that a seal wasn't blocking urine from flowing into the bladder from that third kidney. It is painful but they purposely did not leave a string attached because they don't want it to come out or me remove it until my 6 week follow up. He said that normally when they place them they leave a string and it is taken out after 1 week and sometimes the patient is even given permission to remove it themselves if they feel comfortable doing so but a string was not left in mine because it's very important that it stays for 6 weeks. All 3 kidneys appear to be healthy and fully functional now but the incisions made to the ureter seal and in order to allow the 3rd ureter to drain properly into the bladder, but the stent must remain for 5-6 weeks. My appointment to remove it is May 3rd.

My son was calling me a lot and keeping me on the phone for long periods of time upset but he's still having a hard time accepting the fact that he's completely wrong in the situation and needs to give her time to think things over. He's not being very understanding of my needing time and space too in order to rest and heal and so my husband has told him tonight not to call for a while because he's putting me through undue stress when I really need to focus on getting well. I went to church tonight and it was a mistake, it was too soon and the car ride was so uncomfortable there and back. We live far away and it was too much too soon. As much as the idea upsets me, I don't think I can go on Sunday even though it's Easter, I need to give this time to heal up and not spend too much time in the car until I can handle the pain better.

Thank you for your continued prayers, it means a lot and I know the Lord is working on both the situation with my son/dil as well as working on me physically. It is a blessing that the 3rd kidney was found healthy and is able to function and not damaged, they also feel like having removed a "pouch" and opened the ureter seal I shouldn't have more issues with stones again. Because of the location of the stone they did not feel comfortable leaving fragments to come out naturally so they do spend the time to collect each piece and remove before placing the stent. I know it's a blessing that they found the kidney and repaired it so that it flows normally so for that I'm thankful, I do wish the stent could come out sooner but I also understand that they have their reasons for wanting it to stay in while incisions heal so I'm just trusting the Lord to help me get used to it being in there.

Thank you again, I'm trying to rest and take it easy. I will update again in a few days.

I am glad you heard this from the doctor. Please give yourself time to heal without extra stress. Praying for you. God bless you.

Today has been calmer and my son has been talking to my husband when he gets the urge to call DIL, as long as DH doesn't mind taking the calls I'm ok with it, I just don't want to stay on the phone because I need rest. The surgeon's nurse called back today because she got the cultures back from Monday and there is infection in the cultures so they have increased the antibiotics I'm on and are extending me taking them for an additional 5 days. My husband has been great and he's set the alarm on his phone to every 4 hours to give me my pain medication so I don't end up in too much pain. He's waking me through the night to take it so I don't wake up in tons of pain. He's been great through this whole thing and I'm very appreciative over it. My mother has called me every day to check in on me and even my daughter has tried to be helpful around the house. Things with DIL are still at a standstill but no movement is still good because it's not more steps in a bad direction. My son is wanting to start on medication as soon as possible if it means not feeling so hurt and upset. It's not the right way of looking at it because it's another way of wanting a quick fix but I'm not saying anything because at least he's more and more open to the idea of medication and treatment to get himself balanced out. I'll update more in a few days, right now I'm just taking it easy and trying to rest. Thank you all for your prayers and support.

OhLucy76, this has been such an ordeal. I feel so bad for you. But, even though you have an infection, I thank the Lord it can be taken care of (in spite of all your discomfort).

As for Easter, I am sure there must be churches (possibly your own) who will be downstreaming live on the internet on Sunday morning. If not, I can send you some in a pm. I pray for the discomfort to subside as you wait for the removal of the stent. It is also obvious that you have a wonderful husband to deal with your son and take are of you so well. You are truly blessed. Praying for you.....

Glad you spoke to your physician Lucy, and that he relieved your mind about the discomfort that is common with renal stents. I pray for your healing and rest.

Praying as you recover. I am glad to hear your son wants to get calmer. Please rest!

I pray the time goes by quickly for you until may when you get the stent out and that your infection heals up ....I also pray for your son to make the right decisions in his life.....as far as church goes I would not even consider going out until you are out of pain and all healed up......God doesn't want you to be in agony in the house of worship.....maybe some folks from the church can come and visit you in the coming weeks....you need your rest so you body can recuperate from the trauma it has gone through.....my prayers are with you......

Today has been better and my pain was lowered to a much more tolerable level. My husband has been great by keeping me on track to take pain medication every 4 hours and I think that is why today has been much better. I took 1 pill each time instead of 2 and it has been much more calm since turning the phone off.

My daughter's dress arrived today for Sunday, and I had someone go pick up the shoes I had held for her. I'm just taking it easy and resting. DH has been cleaning and fixing food during mealtimes. I have someone stopping by tomorrow to pick up a large piece of furniture that we're selling and once that's done I can return to PJs and be comfortable the rest of the time.

Today is the first day in over a week that wasn't high stress, high pain, high tension....so I'm glad about that and still undecided about Sunday. Our church does have a webcast but I really do love going so, if my pain stays tolerable I MIGHT go Sunday morning and watch webcast Sunday night. If tomorrow night I'm hurting a lot I won't risk going to be in too much pain to enjoy service. I love my church and if I'm not hurting too badly I want to go, I'll decide tomorrow night or early Sunday morning depending on if my pain is tolerable like now or out of control like on Wednesday. Thank you for your support and prayers.

It sounds like a good plan to decide last minute. Please do not overdo it during your important recovery period. The Lord understands. Blessings.