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Problems with my youngest

gordos4
gordos4
My youngest son called again last night, pretty drunk. He ranted on & on about how there is no God, otherwise there wouldn't be suffering in the world, etc....I did my best to talk to him about it & why there is suffering. He says he is worthless & has no purpose. He is only 21 & I told him to #1 quit drinking, & give himself some time to find himself. I finally had to tell him "I do not want to talk to you when you've been drinking". He NEVER gets snotty with me, but he did last night. Im losing him & feel helpless to do anything about it. Im heartbroken & have been crying like a baby all morning. When I hung up last night, that realiable voice in my head said "Be prepared, you are gong to lose him too & it will be painful" That voice has never lied to me before. I think it's my guardian angel warning of things, ive heard it throughout my life. He admitted he's been lying to me about taking his medication. I don't know what to do anymore. I cannot bear to lose another son. :-(
lindajoan
lindajoan
Volunteering is such a great idea.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Whyonlychild I want to support and encourage you with all of my heart in your volunteering efforts!! I am so thrilled to see this kind of loving, giving, response to all the sadness we each feel this time of year! Good for you!! And I add my support also of your desire to help others get out of the negative places the enemy tempts us to all to go when this time of year rolls around!! The enemy hates it when good comes out of the bad that he brings in our lives....that is why I love to turn the tables on him and do something loving/giving when he fills my life with his poison! Keep me posted on how the volunteering comes along for you as I would love to hear how you are doing!
gordos4
gordos4
I used to do ALOT of volunteering, but lost interest in that about 3 years ago. I have slowly lost interest in a lot of things I used to do. I am working on it.
texassunshine9406
texassunshine9406
It isn't you, it's him! He is in the throws of alcoholism and he cannot stop drinking without help! I know, I am in recovery. I have been sober since 9/4/06 and it's a struggle sometimes now. I will have this disease my entire life, but I do not have to succumb to it. I can control it by being an active member of AA and working my program. He needs treatment, but the program is for people who want it not the ones who need it. You may lose him permanently if he keeps drinking, but he has to hit his bottom and ask for help for himself. He can't do it for YOU, HER or any other reason but himself. Keep praying for him. He's not lost yet.
savedbyhim45
savedbyhim45
thank you Texas and kudos for you.You are an inspiration to the rest of us, that is helpful. It is so very painful to watch a child struggle with this. You even talking about this Gordos testifies that you are caring deeply for your son and his welfare. Do not blame yourself for this, it is out of your control.

prayer on his behalf:
Dear Heavenly Father, I lift up to you Gordos's son who struggles with alcoholism. Please Father release him from this oppression. Help and guide him to a full recovery. Keep him safe Lord during this time. Father please comfort Gordos and grant her your peace of mind and body. Let her feel your holy presence and give her rest Lord. In the holy and magnificent name of Jesus , we pray. Amen.
gordos4
gordos4
Thank you savedbyhim! That is such a sweet prayer, Amen.

whyonlychild, I feel your pain with the holidays coming up. My ES started being really nasty right before Christmas 2 years ago & hasn't stopped. I am SO dreading Christmas. I am praying to God to give me a Christmas miracle. I have really been struggling the last 2 weeks. I know I am being attacked by the evil one. I don't even like to type his name, because I think that gives him power. Hang in there! We are ALL doing the best we can given the circumstances.
texassunshine, my brother said the same thing. He has been sober for 30+ years & STILL struggles. I had a dream a few years back that he had started drinking again. I was SO upset when I woke up. I sent him a text & asked him if he was ok..he was. He wasn't very nice when he drank, he was combative & abusive. I suspect my son is a not-so-nice drunk. I know he has gotten into a few fights.
I am especially sensitive to alcoholism because both my parents were such severe, heavy drinkers. I always warned my boys there were more likely to become alcoholics because of their family history. I have been blaming myself for their depression/alcohol problems because I passed it down to them. I am slowly starting to realize that I didn't do it on purpose & shouldn't blame myself.