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poodlegirl61 07/08/2015

Well, first of all this has nothing to do with my ES. This is about my daughter's two year old. He seems perfect in every way except he has little to no speech. I mean he is noisy, but no real words other than "ba-ba" (for bottle, which they stopped giving him) and he will wave and say "bye bye". I have heard him say "mama" a couple of times but he is not consistent. If you ask him where his nose is, he can point to that, and he can give high fives, claps, makes eye contact, and plays with kids, but no speech. Well I have been concerned for awhile, but my daughter just said I was a worrier and blew me off. Well today was his 2 year old checkup and his pediatrician reffered him to ECI (early childhood intervention) where they come to his house and evaluate him. Of course it could be anything, but I am scared to death of autism. As so of course I googled it and saw all sorts of videos and it scared me even more. I know if he did have autism, it would not be the end of the world, but she is very scared now, and actually so am I. And I am just scared to death, and I know I should not be, but I am. I am sitting here crying as I type this! I don't know when the people will come to her house, but I am sure soon. Just please, please pray. I am almost afraid to see my daughter now for fear of falling completely apart.

lindajoan 07/08/2015

Poodle, Two is very young. Many children do not start speaking before 3 years of age. Early intervention is a wonderful plan. You will see. We will pray.

okaynow 07/08/2015

I will pray for him

Sommersmom 07/08/2015

I will be lifting your grandson up in prayer.

difficulttime2 07/08/2015

I just want to send some encouragement your way ... two of my close friend's children were on the spectrum of autism. They did not have early intervention but did have some 'therapy' where they did exercises that were designed to 'reconnect' different parts of the brain, much like in a brain injury ... now that same child who had some serious 'delays' is an RN and has either almost finished her Masters Degree or is finished. The other one is functioning very well and is earning his black belt in Karate.
Even if it is your worst fears of autism ... it is NOT the end of the world ... the therapies have come a very long way and the result is amazing. I will add that the one who is an RN did so in regular college, without any accommodations for the 'past' autism.
Bottom line, her brain has healed and she is fine ... the therapies out there now are amazing.

Praying for your little grandson and for your whole family. I know getting something diagnosed can be very stressful, but don't pre-live the stress of it ... it may not be autism, and even if it is, it can be managed very very well.

barbyzhere 07/08/2015

You've received great advice here poodle girl. Could it be his hearing? My granddaughter didn't speak till she was about 3 at which time they did a procedure on her ears and now she talks SO MUCH! She's an 8 year old bubbly doll. Google can be a wonderful tool, or it can be horrible - giving you worst case scenario. Try to be patient until you get the real scoop on what's going on. I'll be remembering you in prayer.

AmmiJoyce 07/08/2015

I am lifting your grandson up in prayer. My youngest, now 31, a college graduate, did not begin talking until after his 2nd bd. I was concerned, but my mother told me not to worry, that my daughter didn't begin talking until she was three. My sister, like my son, began speaking in full sentences when they began talking. If there is something wrong with your grandson, God will carry you through it.

edr1961 07/08/2015

Poodlegirl please try not to worry, but i worry to about my gs also. He is 3yr old and his speech is not as good as the other gs that is close in age,I will pray for him he is an angel and he will be protected. He is perfect!

feellinghelpless 07/08/2015

I believe it was Einstein that didn't talk until he was 3 and then in full sentences.
If your gs is looking people in the eye and socializing I doubt it's autism. Early intervention is great. My degree is in special education

poodlegirl61 07/08/2015

Oh thank you all so much. I feel as if you are my best friends and I have never met any of you. Just knowing you are praying for me, as well as your comforting words, has made me feel much better. And you are right, I need to stop googling and stop worrying about what ifs. Just take it one day at a time, and like I said, no matter what happens, I know God has this. He is such a little angel, and I just know God will take care of him.

bella479 07/10/2015

Poodle....our niece has three boys all with autism and her husband has it too. They do notice it by age 2 but one thing....there is a broad spectrum range of it too. (you probably already read this on the internet) They learn to function as time goes on. But that is a good point .... maybe his hearing is it. Much talk about autism and all the ultrasounds being done on the pg moms these days, wish they would stop those.

Prayer will give you peace and comfort, God is in control. ((big hugs to you))

poodlegirl61 07/10/2015

Thanks, Bella. Yes, I have read all about the spectrum (if indeed it is autism) and I know there are worse things in the world. And I know that no matter what, he is perfect and we love him, and God is absolutely in control. The thing that is bothering me the most about this whole matter is the fact that I keep obsessing and worrying and CRYING over this! Really, I am way more upset than my own daughter is. And I have a deep faith, and I read scripture, and I do take it to heart. I think the Enemy is trying to work on me right now. I feel so under attack. The past two mornings I have awakened at 5 am sharp (my normal wakeup time is 7) and I just am almost having a panic attack, just thinking about my gs and all sorts of worst case scenarios and I literally scare myself to death. This is no way for a Christian to act and I know it, and I am ashamed for feeling like this. A few months ago, at a regular doctor's appointment, my doctor prescribed Lexapro for me when I told her how despondent I had been over the estrangement. However, I was very reluctant to take it because I just hate the idea of being on anti-depressants (Lexapro is also used for anxiety). Anyway, now I am wondering if I should start taking it.

lindajoan 07/10/2015

Please give yourself time to rest. When we are exhausted everything seems worse and the enemy does attack. Be good to yourself. God will care for you.

bella479 07/10/2015

poodle----remember this "when the devil knocks on the door send God to answer it" I know God gave me this little saying and I remember it over and over. So I actually ask God to please go and stand in the gap for me and believe me he does not fear the devil who waits for our weak moments to attack.

I have to take Valuim (diazepam) once in awhile when my tremors get bad from Parkinson's disease, it calms them down. There is nothing wrong with using medicine like this to help us out sometimes. We just do not want to use it as a crutch in life, many people do and that is where the addiction comes in. IMO....you do not seem depressed just a little anxious, try to take one step at a time. (hugs)

edr1961 07/14/2015

Poodle- just looking over site and wondering how you are and how is your gc

hischild65 07/14/2015

Praying God will give you peace about this situation with your grandson. To help encourage you, I would like you to know that my 2nd son at the age of 2 sounded like he was talking Chinese. When he was in school, he tested as gifted. He is very intelligent. He is 38 years old now and has a Masters Degree. He is perfect in every way. Smiles and hugs........God's blessings to you and your family.....

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