CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
In my Life Application Daily Devotional read this morning the 10 commandments were discussed. Irregardless of what caused the estrangements, the commandment is specific: Honor your father and mother that your days may be long.....
This go on to say: The fifth commandment is the first one with a promise attached. To live in peace for generations in the Promised Land, the Israelites would need to respect authority and build strong families. But what does it mean to "honor" your parents? Partly, it means speaking well of them and politely to them. It also means showing them courtesy and respect. It means following their teaching and example in putting God first. Even those who find it difficult to get along with their parents are still commanded to honor them.
We all argued with our parents or disagreed with them - but as the last line above says: EVEN THOSE WHO FIND IT DIFFICULT TO GET ALONG WITH THEIR PARENTS ARE STILL COMMANDED TO HONOR THEM.
This go on to say: The fifth commandment is the first one with a promise attached. To live in peace for generations in the Promised Land, the Israelites would need to respect authority and build strong families. But what does it mean to "honor" your parents? Partly, it means speaking well of them and politely to them. It also means showing them courtesy and respect. It means following their teaching and example in putting God first. Even those who find it difficult to get along with their parents are still commanded to honor them.
We all argued with our parents or disagreed with them - but as the last line above says: EVEN THOSE WHO FIND IT DIFFICULT TO GET ALONG WITH THEIR PARENTS ARE STILL COMMANDED TO HONOR THEM.
No parent in our CPEAC support group is trying to break up anyone's marriage! Norske1 is not advocating this at all. She is only stating the 5th Commandment that God wrote Himself for everyone of us to follow all our lives. Only Satan himself can destroy and break up marriages while possibly using some human beings who are not true Christians at all or living close to the Lord.. What our support group is genuinely and entirely about is reconciling and restoring Christian families to their total completeness and wholeness who have been tragically divided and destroyed due to certain self-serving individuals wishing to take total control in relationships which is certainly not from the Lord. Division is evil based, directly from the devil himself. From all who have expressed deep heartache and grief on CPEAC, it is only with sincerest intentions and God's divine help and direction that we desire so much to bring our families together solidly like the Lord originally intended families to be, certainly not attempting to separate them! We are namely trying to be INCLUSIVE of all family members, never isolating or leaving anyone out, not giving our complete loyalties to one certain family member or family side only! God does not favor this at all. PLEASE REALIZE IT IS NOT SCRIPTURAL NOR SHOULD IT BE INTERPRETED THAT WHEN A MAN LEAVES HIS FAMILY, HE IS PERMITTED AND ALLOWED TO FORGET HIS OWN FAMILY AND BE TOTALLY EXCUSED FROM CONTINUING TO HONOR, LOVE AND RESPECT THEM. There is no inference to this whatsoever. While the Bible does state that a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two become one flesh, it also DOES NOT AUTHORIZE that any son or daughter at the same time totally disown their parent(s) and stop loving, honoring and respecting them for the rest of their lives. Please search out the scriptures to what it states about family relationships.
Let's put it another way MommyDearest101...if we indeed are supposed to be in the true Family of God as we all here in CPEAC understand it to be and one member decides to choose/pick sides and only support the one family side of choice while forgetting the other family member or side whom was totally left out, how do you personally support God's feeling regarding this and Him allowing self-serving division within His own large Christian family?
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 19:14
Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.
Matthew 19:4-6
"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh' ? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
Our minister did a series recently on the Fifth Commandment. Interestingly enough, in the Old Testament a father and his son went to the home of the intended bride with gifts, etc., then the son went back to his parents' home to build a home nearby to bring his wife to. When finished, he returned to the bride's home as she lived with her parents, brought her to their home next to his father's home, where they would be married and live.
There is nothing in the bible about leaving either the son's or daughter's families when they marry. They all unite together for these young people in a Christian showing of love and support.
I am sincerely thankful for your prayers though. That's sweet. God bless you. :)
You don't seem to understand that when a child marries then they have a new family and the parents become EXTENDED family. I hope you come to understand this someday. Perhaps it will make you less entitled of your children's attention and time and allow you to let them live their own lives.
And MommyDearest101...
Typing only scripture verses for your response which most of us know quite well certainly did not answer my question to you personally? Would you please kindly address this?
Let's put it another way MommyDearest101...if we indeed are supposed to be in the true Family of God as we all here in CPEAC understand it to be and one member decides to choose/pick sides and only support the one family side of choice while forgetting the other family member or side whom was totally left out, how do you personally support God's feeling regarding this and Him allowing self-serving division within His own large Christian family?
I don't understand the question. How do I support God's feelings about something? I'm sorry, I don't understand the question.
"I'm not angry at all Norske1, I was just trying to help you. My upbringing involves following the bible. I'm sorry that you disagree so strongly with the bible. I will pray for YOU.
You don't seem to understand that when a child marries then they have a new family and the parents become EXTENDED family. I hope you come to understand this someday. Perhaps it will make you less entitled of your children's attention and time and allow you to let them live their own lives."
MommyDearest101, you continue to barrage Norske1 with unfounded malicious remarks that she disagrees strongly with the Bible and also have deduced she does not understand the interpretation and meaning of it. This is a personal attack on her.
WHAT EVIDENCE do you have that Norske1 and most if not all of us were not brought up following the Bible scriptures? That is a very profound assessment to make of someone you have no background knowledge of. Your tone comes across bitter and angry. ARE YOU AN ESTRANGED PARENT?
I am just trying to help.
What are you doing on this CPEAC site then? You simply cannot identify with any estranged parent member who shares. You have absolutely NOTHING to contribute on here to help or support any of us!