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OK SO MY BROTHER HAS 3 KIDS WITH HIS EX AND THEY ARE BOTH IN DIFFERENT STATES. THEY BOTH HAVE THEIR PROBLEMS ETC. BUT HIS OLDEST IS 13 GOING TO BE 14 SOON. THE MOTHER HAS FULL CUSTODY OF ALL OF THEM. AND THE OLDEST DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH HER SHE WANTS TO BE WITH HER FATHER. MY BROTHER WAS TOLD THAT IN THE STATE OF COLORADO OR NEW MEXICO WAHTEVER THAT THE CHILD ONCE THEY TURN 12 THEY GET TO CHOOSE WHO THEY WANT TO LIVE WITH. OF COURSE THEY STILL HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE COURTS N STUFF I'M ASSUMING. BUT MY BROTHER IS NOT TOO INTERNET SAVVY SO HE DOESNT RESEARCH. THE QUESTION WE ARE WANTING TO KNOW IS HOW WOULD ONE GO ABOUT DOING THAT? HES HERE IN TEXAS AND HIS KIDS ARE IN COLORADO. HE CANT TRY AND GET HIS OTHER 2 KIDS COS THEY ARE YOUNGER,. BUT HIS EX IS CRAZY AND LOUD AND JUST OUT OF CONTROL. THE COPS ARE CALLED ON HER AND HER CURRENT BOYFRIEND CONSTANTLY FOR LOUD BEHAVIOR AND WHAT NOT. THE OLDEST CHILD USED TO CALL THE COPS ON THEM BUT NOW SHES AFRAID. BECAUSE THE COPS HAVE TOLD HER STUFF LIKE "NO MATTER WHAT SHES UR MOM AND YOU HAVE TO RESPECT HER" BECAUSE APPARENTLY AS LONG AS THEY DONT SEE THAT THE MOTHER HAS PHYSICALLY ABUSED HER THEY REALLY CANT DO ANYTHING. BUT WE ARE LIKE "WHAT DO THEY CONSIDER ABUSE?" BECAUSE THIS WOMAN YELLS AT HER AND TELLS HER OFF HORRIBLY. MY NIECE DOES NOT RESPECT HER MOTHER AT ALL AND TELLS HER OFF BACK. BECAUSE HER MOTHER NO MATTER WHO SHES WITH AT THE TIME IS THE TYPE OF PERSON WHO CHOOSES HER "BF" OVER HER KIDS. SHE WILL LIE TO THE POLICE TELLING THEM THAT HER DAUGHTER IS LYING ETC. MY NIECE WAS SUCH A NICE GIRL SHE WAS SHY AND SHE WAS DOING GOOD IN SCHOOL. NOW SHES SO DEPRESSED AND "EMO" SHE HARDLY SPEAKS ONLINE WHEN SHE IS ONLINE AND SHE NEVER CALLS ME. SHE DID HOWEVER CALL MY BROTHER YESTERDAY CRYING AND SHE NEVER REALLY DOES. NEIGHBORS HAVE EVEN SEEN WHAT GOES ON AS FAR AS HER MOTHER AND HER BF. THEY ARGUE AND FIGHT SO MUCH AND SHOW THEIR BUSINESS IN PUBLIC SO THATS HOW THE NEIGHBORS KNOW. THE MAN SHES CURRENTLY WITH APPARENTLY HITS THE KIDS OR WILL HIT THEIR MOTHER AT TIMES AND THE OLDEST WILL DEFEND HER MOTHER REGARDLESS HOW MUCH SHE DISPISES HER, SHE WILL GRAB THE GUY TO TRY AND PULL HIM OFF HER BUT THEN HE WILL JUST TURN AROUND AND PUSH HER DOWN OR HIT HER ETC. AND DURING ONE OF THOSE TIMES SHE CALLED THE AUTHORITIES AND COULDNT PROVE ANYTHING BECAUSE AGAIN THE MOTHER DEFENDS THE BOYFRIEND AND TELLS THEM THAT THE DAUGHTER IS JUST MAKING THINGS UP...BLAH BLAH BLAH...THEY ARE ONE OF THOSE MAKE UP BREAK UP COUPLES...THEY ARE IDIOTS AND WE NEED SOME ADVICE PLEASE ANYONE HELP!!!
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Talk to your niece and have her write a letter in her own words and have it sent to the judge in Colorado where she is now. She is old enough to make her own decision and tell the judge herself what is going on. She needs to have her dad go to Colorado and fight for the safety of her and the younger ones. One day that bf of the mother of your niece he will seriously hurt one of them and your poor brother will be going to a funeral then trying to get his kids back. He needs to file for full custody of all of the kids not just your older niece.
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It doesn't sound like she is very stable but the burden of proof is on him. I would think that if she has that many things on her record and an unstable household that he could do something about it. You said that they both have their own issues, are her issues worse than his? Just a question. One thing that most people don't seem to understand is that because a child is of what they call,legal age to decide, it doesn't mean that the courts just automatically just let them go. He will have to get an attorney, file a judgement for custody and the judge will decide if she can go or not. It's me er up to the kids totally. Something that the judge will want to know is if he thinks that the kids are not in a good/safe environment, why is he not trying to get custody of all of them? Everything plays itself out. Unfortunately, the kids have to suffer until the Mother figures things out. Does your brother have a place for the children? It's going to take a lot of money to do this so tell him to be prepared for the cost.. Go to your local courthouse and use the law library and see what your options are. You'll have to go by Colorado law,though. I say, fight for all of them if this is the kind of life they are living.
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