All other women or your OW??

The word "among" indicates partial participation. I'm sorry you missed that. The proportion of which is unknown. This is my first and only direct encounter with it. I'm sorry you missed that too in your investigation of my potential weaknesses. My observation of it confirms its existence. I don't know if her request was conscious or not. I can't ask, because I'm steadfastly maintaining non contact.

I'd be happy to do some extensive research on the topic for you if you'd like to learn more. If I find anything on specific techniques, i can forward it to you. I'm always eager to be helpful to you and your goals.

I AM ABOUT TO STOP RESPONDING TO YOUR POSTS. I don't think that what you are asking is possible. When I was in His arms all I was thinking about was how much I loved Him! For your own sake you need to stop your paranoia about your X OW. Maybe she did care about you, maybe still does.

Also, talk to a therapist about what you are saying. They may be able to help you. When my attempts to use logic and reason fail, I give up.

I think this is way over my head ... I don't fully understand it ...

May I inquire as to were you got your source on this? Is this on a scientific journal? Since this implies imprinting I am assuming the research included men in its sample population. I find this interesting and would appreciate being able to followup on this. Thanks

It's a term of my own coinage. It's mainly Pavlovian and Skinnerian in this case. I assume you're familiar with neurolinguistic programming. It's easy enough to google if you're not. Anyway, it ingrains a subconscious connection between orgasms the pleasure centers of the brain, (and all those endorphins) with a name. The speaking, hearing, or thinking of the name triggers sexual arousal. Conversely, sexual arousal can trigger the thinking or worse yet speaking of the name. Conditioned responses require repeated exposure, so the more this habit goes on, the more it is unconsciously ingrained.

I use "imprinting" because, like mother ducks, it instills a growing bond to a specific individual.

The real manipulation comes into play when the operator desires a specific behavior and applies more and more subtle sexual cues at each compliance as reinforcement of the behavior. This is why you can tie an elephant to a post with just a piece of twine, eventually. Operant conditioning, see BF Skinner.

I made up the term, but that's where, "she has him wrapped around her little finger" is often heard. It's a common occurrence, whether deliberate or not. To be forewarned is to be forearmed.

It works better on men because men are more reliably aroused on short notice, but I see no reason it would not work on women.

My affair partner told me how her husband called out her name at the wrong time and the husband's girlfriend was not happy about it. Granted, it's anecdotal, but it would would make a good study... if you can find volunteers.

I suppose you might have this if one of the people in the affair was goal/business oriented and was in the affair to win or gain something and not because they were so confused and caught up in their feelings that they made poor choices in clouded judgement.

I can offer no insight on this beyond to say that in my experience, my OP did not have the goal of manipulating me, but rather loved me and simply wanted me to be happy. I was not required to spit out meaningless phrases on command. In the end, he made sacrifices on a scale comparable to the ones you describe yourself making for your wife in another post in order to protect me when he thought I was in a physically dangerous situation. I am certain that there are people who use affairs as a method to further monetary, influential, or capital goals. However, these are rarely found in support groups.

FWIW In my late thirties I was deeply in love with a man nearing 70. I was pretty attractive and he was very insecure. More fool him. I adored him, but he was abusive as a result of his insecurity and was quite abusive psychologically.
I awoke in the night to him repeating himself endlessly about how he was the only person who loved me, how he was my only true love, how I could never leave him etc. I was just shocked by this.
Of course I eventually did leave him. His insane jealousy, his possessiveness coupled with intense deliberate psychological abuse drove me away. His cruelties were studied and deliberate.
But for several years after I left the relationship I was unable to become intimate with anyone else. That outcome was totally counter to my conscious wish: to find a compatible psychologically healthy partner. A friend with expertise in hypnosis indicated that ex bf had been attempting to hypnotize me and that he would be happy to assist me in getting out form under the unseen influence . We had a session of hypnosis wherein he introduced the suggestion that I was free form the previous influence, that type of thing (This was over thirty years ago, specific memory fails).
The next day when I awoke. I felt very differently. I felt lighter. It was an amazing release.
I am not certain if this addresses your specific query, but this memory seemed in line with some of your discussion.
That man was a twisted no good sick piece of work. He did not appreciate the unfeigned and devoted love he received. In hindsight, I realize HE knew what he was actually worth and had no confidence in my sentiments for that reason. My guess; the woman you refer to has the same issue he did.

One, you are throwing a lot of fancy words around here....are you trying to convince us that you know about this stuff? Show me your creds!

Your coinage......your coinage.. Just who the hell are you??????

Just a guy who picks up random bits of information and sees connections and patterns. I'm not an expert at anything at all, but I am good at drawing sound conclusions. I told my wife about this all yesterday, and yes, it was hard to do. She saw the sense it made and expanded on it because my affair partner saw how hard I tried to provide for my wife's comfort and how much I really loved her.

My wife told me that the affair partner probably wanted all that for herself and that's why she made it so easy for us to get caught. That's hard for me to take, because I thought the affair partner was a good friend, but with the other bits and pieces my wife's private investigators provided, we can only reach the conclusion that she exploits men's (several, it turns out) affection for her own material gain in goods and services.

I was so stupid. I didn't see it coming. I could have stopped it at any time, but I was so caught up in how she addressed my emotional needs, that I lost sight of what was truly important and real.

Lots of lovers want to hear their name wether they are cheating lovers or married couple. No my H never called me by her name ( THANK GOD FOR THAT )

The rest of your questions seem to be pissing people off and honestly even though you are going bc, this post indicates she (the ow) and her thoughts, intentions and actions matter to you.

And for the record, to the best of my understanding, my ah and ow had an arrangement that worked at first. Friends with benefits. He got sex she got financial help. He got attention she got financial help. Win win for both.

Then the tidesturned. She became (may always have been just didn't admit) attached and developed feelings. They continued as if this weren't so. For him she was a booty call ego boost alwayscwillingvto open her "door" to him. He was a callus ass who knew she was falling or already fell.

Then she got pregnant and that was his reality check and he walked (ran) from the arrangement leaving her broken him broken our marriage broken and Many innocent children broken.

At the end of the day she left the biggest imprint there is. His child.