I'm waiting for both my parents to die. 96 on Monday and 98. They're in fair health and have funds for help at home.

It's still devastating.

My father talks often of a happy pill. It hurts to hear him but I understand. It's not a life merely existing.

My mother has dementia. She's in her own world but worries constantly.

I've had them for 66 years.

I feel their pain.

I sometimes wish we had religion. It might make it easier.

Gentle Hugs and Smiles.

moresmiles, I feel your pain and your parent's pain as well.

If you think that religion would help......it's never to late have that.

I wish you well.

The biggest help I get from my faith is when I ask for strength to endure, and for God to help do what is right, not what I want.

The worst help I get from my faith is when I get very specific about what I want. Often it would require a very obvious miracle, almost as powerful as raising somebody from the dead.

In many ways I get the most help when I let it all out. (Did that yesterday, Mrs. Pepper endured a lot of my anger and frustration before I could get things out.) More specifically letting it all hang out with people who either "really get it" or people who really care about me.

This forum is a good place for the "really get it" part!

Nothing wrong with wishing someone could die if they have nothing left to live for and are in constant pain.

My dad's last days were HORRIBLE and I feel absolutely no shame in wishing he would die.

It's OK to wish to be free of this burden!

Mr. Pepper, I so know what you are talking about. Sometimes I wonder why do I bother? It is very frustrating when no prayer's are answered. I guess the big Guy upstairs knows what is best for us. It can sure help one lose faith. Trust me.....I am soooo almost there. But I think I will jinx myself even saying it out loud.

I know that Mrs. Pepper has always been a rock for you. I've said it before that you are so lucky to have such a lovely person who get's you and allows you to vent with no compaints.

We all care so much about you and this is the place to letting it all out. We really do get it.

Hugs!

Jan, I can see where you are coming from and I am sorry if I sounded insensitive. I so get your point.

So sorry that your dad's last day's were so horrible. And of course it is ok to pray to be released from that burden for him and your family.

The prayer I want to pray is the one where my dad gets healthy, no need for PT, OT or any more medical care. He has all his mental powers back and he can go back to helping me do wood work projects.

But I know that I am never going to get that. At least here in this world.

I do believe that asking God to relieve a person of their pain is a very valid prayer. It really bothers me that God lets so many of us have a terrible last days, weeks, months or worse, years, of life.

Thanks Pep and carly.

Wow did I need to read this thread tonight! My parents are only in their 70s but it seems like every little thing sets my Mom off these days. She's either yelling at me or being depressed. I try so hard to be a caring supportive daughter but I'll admit I have days like you where I wish they weren't here anymore so I could just be free to live my own life. Then I feel terribly guilty for feeling that way about my parents because I do love them. It's a really tough situation to be in. Oh and I hear ya on the dysfunctional...fun ain't it? lol

Love the mail story Pepper. Thanks for making me laugh on a horrible night!

I hope it gets better for you.