Caring For Aging Parents Support Group
Caring for aging parents can be a difficul time as we become the caretakers for our parents. This broad responsibility can encompass such services as assisted living, adult day care, long term care, nursing homes, hospice care, and in-home care. Whether you have just started caring for your parents or just need a place to talk, we're here.
melissa2487
I'm not sure what forum this could go into but I need to talk about this to someone. I take care both of my parents who are ill. I'm 28 years old, work part time and when I'm not working... I'm taking care of them. I barely go out so I don't spend money like crazy.
My mom has 1 leg, barely any eyesight, and recently almost had to get her other leg amputated as well as severe depression & anxiety. My dad has cancer, balance issues, severe depression and anxiety as well as other mental issues. Recently with my mom almost losing her leg, she has a lot of hospital stays and doctors bills. I must have 40+ bills in front of me...most doctors know our situation and either haven't billed us, billed us small amounts or just told us to take our time.
Well today I got a letter to appear in court because one of the doctors (who was terrible and just wanted to amputate and didn't even really consider any other options) billed us $230... I already paid $72 of that because I was told "if I just pay some of it - even if it's a dollar - they can't sue because you tried." Quite frankly, the guy doesn't deserve a dollar. I can't believe they are taking us to court over $144. Does that sound ridiculous? I mean I never had a problem like this with any doctors and I really am trying hard to not go on Medical Bankruptcy. They didn't even send the bill to the collections agency.. is that normal?
I'm just so stressed about this. I am trying my hardest and I am just drowning and the last thing I need is this idiot doctor who we only visited once to take me to court. I mean my family doesnt even have a stove, dishwasher or washing machine - we are not well off whatsoever. This is not what I need.
My mom has 1 leg, barely any eyesight, and recently almost had to get her other leg amputated as well as severe depression & anxiety. My dad has cancer, balance issues, severe depression and anxiety as well as other mental issues. Recently with my mom almost losing her leg, she has a lot of hospital stays and doctors bills. I must have 40+ bills in front of me...most doctors know our situation and either haven't billed us, billed us small amounts or just told us to take our time.
Well today I got a letter to appear in court because one of the doctors (who was terrible and just wanted to amputate and didn't even really consider any other options) billed us $230... I already paid $72 of that because I was told "if I just pay some of it - even if it's a dollar - they can't sue because you tried." Quite frankly, the guy doesn't deserve a dollar. I can't believe they are taking us to court over $144. Does that sound ridiculous? I mean I never had a problem like this with any doctors and I really am trying hard to not go on Medical Bankruptcy. They didn't even send the bill to the collections agency.. is that normal?
I'm just so stressed about this. I am trying my hardest and I am just drowning and the last thing I need is this idiot doctor who we only visited once to take me to court. I mean my family doesnt even have a stove, dishwasher or washing machine - we are not well off whatsoever. This is not what I need.
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I am sorry that this is happening to you. You might want to look into a reputable debt counselor. They might be able to help you get your parents on medicare and/or medicade (I'm not really well informed on those insurances so I can't help much). Once on them that might help limit your exposure to things like this.
I would also suggest that you make sure that YOU are not in a position to be held liable for your parents medical debts.
If you are able to successfully get your parent on state assistance and isolate your finances from theirs, then you might be able to devote more of your income to things like fixing the stove and other things around the house.
As for the court situation; if this bill is for one of your parents; then I would take their financial paperwork with you to the court house and ask for their assistance. If the summons is in the name of one of your parents, then I would contact their doctor and get a write up that they are not able to attend the hearing so that you can represent them in their place.
Some good advice there from pepper and pd...isolate your finances asap ...
I would like to tell you what i really think about this doctor (but it would need sensoring ), i mean dont they make enough money?