One day at a time, that is how we all do it.

Gentle hugs

My mom is a mean human being, but I have lost people I loved. It took me two years to "remember" they were gone. Holidays, seeing something they would like would have me thinking of them then realizing they had passed. My belief is they are still around us just in a different way. Sorry for your grief, be kind to yourself you just lost your mommy. Hugs

My Mom is MEAN! I wish I had a nice mommy. She is 95 and will live forever. why can't the nice mommies live on and on and the mean ones pass on and leave us alone? I don't mean to sound harsh. Just telling it how I see it

my mom is great. I will be inconsolable. And I do follow your advice....I lost my dad when he was 49 and I was 23...suddenly. and I learned that the loved one lives on forever with us and anyone we treat differently because of our (moms) life with that loved one..

Trojan I think the same,thing, as my sister likes to say "only the good die young" so our mom is imortal. I guess when the "angel" mom's die, it feels there couldn't be enough time with them.

Thanks for understanding that I don't intend to sound mean. I just fear I will have to worry about my Mom for what is left of my life. She is a little better to me now that she is in AL but I can never forget her evil.

When I was suffering with a broken leg and my hubs was out of town on business she refused to come help me. A tm she was in perfect health and could have had no problem getting on a plane. Her friends were more important to her than me and they always will be.

I agree with Pepper, one day at a time. It takes time to heal.

I hope you find some peace of mind soon. It's not easy loosing a parent that you were so close with. I'm so sorry for you there. I don't want to loose my mother, I would really like for her to be the funny, warm and caring person she used to be.

Sending extra Huge Hugs to ya,I know they are not your mommy's but if you close your eyes and pretend for a second it might help.
Remember we are all here and in the same boat Cinben, your mom would never have wanted you to go first. I dread the day that I will be in your shoes, I know it is not too far from now,
Hugggggggggggggggg !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thanks guys for all the support :-))

cinben, I am sooo sorry that you lost your Angel Mom. I can only imagine how much you must miss her.

Mr. Pepper is right. It's just one day at a time. She of course will always be missed but maybe one day it won't hurt so much.

My Dad died in 2007 and I miss him everyday. It seems like some of the issues I had with him (like his drinking and upsetting my Mother eventhough she always had an excuse for him) seem to fade away and I am only remembering the great times. All those trips to the beach, fishing and crabbing and going camping. My Mom never went with us....only the camping trips.

She had her own health isssues in and out of hospital so we never were that close. She never seemed to be there for me at times. But now as she has gotten older she has become an angel Mom and grandmom but it is so ironic that because of my health issues I am not there for her as much as I would like.

Story for another time and maybe to a Therapist. :-}

My 94 year old Mil has become soo crabby...cannot say that I blame her with all she is going through. But I just don't deal with it. I leave that up to hubby and our girls. I am always very loving to her and often fuss at my husband for not having more patience with her. He is getting better.

So sorry to go on and on, cinben. But if I may add one more thing. I am soooooo sorry to those that had mean Moms. :-(

Hugs to all.

Ironically,you posted this on what would have been my Dad's 87th Birthday had he not passed away earlier this month.I'm still kind of numb and get really sad when going through his stuff.
I wish you the best.

I guess ,Ill be numb a long time too-hang in there

I'm so sorry for your loss, gentle hugs...losing a loved one so dear will always be traumatic...it does get easier with the passing of time