Caring For Aging Parents Support Group

Caring for aging parents can be a difficul time as we become the caretakers for our parents. This broad responsibility can encompass such services as assisted living, adult day care, long term care, nursing homes, hospice care, and in-home care. Whether you have just started caring for your parents or just need a place to talk, we're here.

852 Members
2,506 Posts
0 Online
Seniors
/ Caring For Aging Parents Support Group

mom refusing to eat

whatswrong19
whatswrong19

So I am doing some caretaking, as much as I can, since I also have a fulltime job, for my parents.  My mom had to be hospitalized Sunday.  She lets small things get her really angry.  the doctor told her not to eat any red food and if they bring her red jello she pitches a little fit and refuses to eat.  apparantly they brought her red food again this morning, but even though she had other options, she just refuses to eat, instead of asking for another plate or telling the cafeteria she can't have red food, she just says she wasn't hungry anyway. If she's in pain she refuses to let them give her pain medicine, if she can't sleep she refuses to let them give her something to help her sleep.  It's really frustrating.  

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I would ask if they can give her a supplement if she's not very hungry like Ensure or Boost.... Perhaps she'll drink a little more??

We can't control other people even when they're making poor choices unless they're deemed a threat to themselves or others....

I used to find these times really frustrating as well..... big hug of support....xo
Anna1212
Anna1212
Good idea Sun. My mom likes Boost and she's really picky. She likes the chocolate flavor. It doesn't have any red in it. Is there a counsellor or pastor type person in the hospital who could talk to your mom or someone who could give her some psychological comfort. Maybe she feels angry about being told what to do and a lack of control in her life she might feel? just a thought. dealing with aging parents can be a nightmare. I am in a constant struggle with my mom who lives with me. the stress is killing me but i'm trying to hang on and figure out what to do. you're not alone. I hope your mom feels better soon and can go home. hugs
MaryContrary
MaryContrary
I am sorry. My Mom is stubborn too. Hugs to you. I know the feeling of trying to help and being frustrated. Helpless to do anything.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • Community LeaderSunCloudJD

    Hello Monday

    Posted by: SunCloudJD
    Last Reply: SunCloudJD
    4
    Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
  • Sunshinegirl0228

    Dr. Appointment

    Posted by: Sunshinegirl0228
    Last Reply: Sunshinegirl0228
    3
    Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.