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My daughter always tell me stories of things I've done or said or thought I did and didn't.
I won't argue about that, but the other day I said to her, well record me!! She did. This morning she came to my room, check for fever, if I needed assistance, food anything before she left.
I only Remember her holding my cell phone. Later I wondered why was she holding my phone and checked my camcorder and BINGO!! There it is,,,a video of what she deals with Almost every morning. Poor thing!! No wonder she makes that " mommy is dying face!!". I always wondered why she looks so worried in the mornings,,,,now I know why.
As caregivers we see, what they can't, also while I think I'm talking, as I saw in the video, I'm mumbling. No wonders most days she says, don't say anything mother, you are not talking.
Alma
My daughter always tell me stories of things I've done or said or thought I did and didn't.
I won't argue about that, but the other day I said to her, well record me!! She did. This morning she came to my room, check for fever, if I needed assistance, food anything before she left.
I only Remember her holding my cell phone. Later I wondered why was she holding my phone and checked my camcorder and BINGO!! There it is,,,a video of what she deals with Almost every morning. Poor thing!! No wonder she makes that " mommy is dying face!!". I always wondered why she looks so worried in the mornings,,,,now I know why.
As caregivers we see, what they can't, also while I think I'm talking, as I saw in the video, I'm mumbling. No wonders most days she says, don't say anything mother, you are not talking.
Alma
My wife and I experience much the same, but for her it's her short term dementia (memory loss). As a result, she often accuses me of not telling her something important that I did so the day or two before. I used to argue with her about it, but now just let it pass when the accusations come
As time and the disease progresses, whatever it is, we all have to adjust the best we can to our circumstances.
Yes, we had talked about this and that's when I requested she recorded me. Because we always talk after the fact about anything, she had told me,,,mom in the mornings It's impossible to understand what you are saying and in the afternoon you expect me to had complied with X request. Please if you want/ need something please text me. Our house is small, and instead of screaming ,we just text.LOL. if someone screams, the other one knows something is wrong.
My aunt has dementia and Parkinson, and mom helps her husband twice a week,,,sometimes I get a call from my mom, who's faking a call to the FBI or some agency my aunt wants to call. Then I tell her, give her an appointment, or say we are on our way. Later my aunt doesn't even asks or Remember her requests. My mom just humors her, tries to keep her calm and happy.
Alma