The last week or so my mom has gone down hill alot. This summer in general she is in much worse condition. She lives with me and my fiance.
I have talked to her every single day since last Monday about physical therapy and doctor appt and her health. I feel like I am talking to a wall. She is putting too much stress on us by not seeking help. She literally looks on the verge of tears most of the time and has been saying she is dying and afraid she has cancer. Idk why she thinks she has cancer other than her back hurts and she thinks back pain is caused by tumors. This is so ignorant and crazy.
I see a chiropractor regularly and told them what was happening with her. They said what she is experiencing is likely caused by her knee surgery making her throw her weight differently and twisting her back to pinch nerves. They told me they could help her and get her on a phys therapy plan. They also take both types of her insurance. I thought great wonderful news.
Wrong. I've been nagging my mom to go all week. She is getting so bad she can't even help around the house and can do very little self care. Sitting around all the time is what has gotten her into this mess. She could go any time but acts like she is stuck at the house unless I go with her. She has an appt to have some tests run Wednesday but it has nothing to do with her back, it is at her heart doctor. She has had a heart condition and been on meds since I was a teenager.
I am so sick of arguing with her. She is an adult on disability with good insurance. I feel it is her responsibility to make doc appts and go to them. She doesn't want me to go with her. I've been trying to get her to change her reg doc for years and she seems to think she can't for some reason. I really think phys therapy and some x-rays are just what she needs but I can't make her go. I really think she needs a mental professional and antidepressants too. She has just totally given up over something that is fairly simple and can be fixed. If she continues to go down hill she will have to go in a home because I won't be qualified to take care of her. She is only 67 and should not be in this bad of shape if she took better care of herself and listened to me. She has just gotten so complacent and negative. She doesn't want to try new things or leave the house or talk to people. I talked to my brother yesterday briefly but he is very busy and doesn't live with us so I don't think he understands how bad she is. I just wish my brother and I could team up against her and make her go to a better doctor and phys therapy. She said she wouldn't do exercise because it hurts. Well obviously something is wrong and needs fixed if it hurts. We go round and round like this.
My fiance and I really want to try to move out next year so we have our own house, a bigger house. I want her to get better not worse. I don't want to have her living with me the rest of my life. I had to move back in after leaving twice because she fell and hurt herself before. This can't keep happening, especially when she is in bad shape because she sits around all the time. She makes no effort to eat healthy or lose weight or do anything to make herself happy. I'm tired of worrying about her when she doesn't try. It's all one sided and incredibly frustrating. I can't just give up and let my mom get in worse shape and die! At the same time I feel like I am spoiling her by letting her have her way too much and doing things for her. I'm trying to formulate a plan so I don't have so much responsibility. I've already talked to her about helping more on bills. What else can I do? I feel like I have never been happy or had a young life because I have always had to deal with her. I am only 27. I can't keep putting her first. What do I do?
I used to never have issues with anxiety or depression until my ex husband started being abusive. We have now been divorced for four years but these issues have stuck with me. I've been on so many different meds since 2012. In 2016 I was admitted into a treatment facility to get my depression and anxiety under control. They put me on Paxil, klonopin, and wellbutrin. Within the last few...
I'm usually helping people on here to try to feel better but for quite some time I haven't been able to help anyone because I'm tired of waking up :( I'm tired of waking up to the same misery just different days. I feel like I have no life just an existence. Yes I have a beautiful almost 5 year old little boy but I feel he deserves a better mom because all I want to do is stay in bed :( This is...