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i feel so lost

kaysie4490
kaysie4490
so my grandma i have been taking care of for the pas two year is pass away the hospice nurse told us today that my grandma might make it a few more days it is so hard to watch her like this she wont eat/drink all she does is sleep and she isnt responding to anything i just don't what to do i feel so lost right now
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello Kaysie,
so sorry you are going through this right now. The feelings of helplessness and sadness are all very natural, talk with those around you about how you are feeling, you're grieving for someone you love very much. Time will ease those extremely painful feelings, the sadness in my experience becomes bearable but it takes time. i still miss my brothers terribly, one died 16 years ago and the other one died 9 years ago. I feel sad sometimes but i also remember the fun times we had. sending love at this sad time xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi, Like Daisy said this is all the natural feelings that accompany letting go when our loved one is at their end. Take a deep breath and tell yourself your grandma is moving on into a much better place. While you won't be able to physically see her anymore, you can feel assured she is happy and finally at rest.

I will keep you in my prayers my friend.

Many soft hugs to you tonight.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The way I look at those who are close to us who are very ill is that when they do pass, they are no longer ill. My aunt was ill for a long time with asthma and many other problems. I had a dream about her. In it she came to talk to me and she looked like herself but had good color in her face which I never saw before and she was well dressed. In the dream she came to tell me that she was there to help out those in need like she had been. It settled my mind. I knew she was happy and we were able to go on knowing all was well with her. I hope this helps.
Mary