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I am holding my breath as in less than 24 hours I am getting some REAL respite time. I will be leaving for Las Vegas at 6:15 tomorrow morning to spend 3 days relaxing and having fun. My sister is traveling with me. It is my first real get away in a year. My bag has been packed for 3 days - can you tell I NEED to get away???? Our grandson, age 24, will stay with my husband.
However, this year, and last year, and the year before, just the day before I am to leave, the hubby starts to tell me he "his time is near", he might not make it, and he feels lousy. Actually, he does not just seem to do this right before I go somewhere, he says this about every two or three weeks. Last September he said he would not live till Christmas, in January, he said he not see the start of the baseball season...... He has already placed a call into his daughter who lives 1500 hundred miles away so he can ask her how is sister felt right before she died. (His daughter was a caregiver to his sister for about year).
It seem like this is more psychological than physical, and though my husband does not feel very good most of the time, any time I am about to go on a trip, his begins to feel like he is on his last legs. I assure you, that even with all his medical issues, he is NOT on his death bed. If I try to re-assure him that he is fine, or will be fine while I am gone, he gets all huffy puffy and said I just don't know how sick he is.
So for now I am just playing this a bit on deaf ear, because I knew this scenario would crop up as usual.
So how many of you experience this scenario when you have a chance to go away for a bit?
However, this year, and last year, and the year before, just the day before I am to leave, the hubby starts to tell me he "his time is near", he might not make it, and he feels lousy. Actually, he does not just seem to do this right before I go somewhere, he says this about every two or three weeks. Last September he said he would not live till Christmas, in January, he said he not see the start of the baseball season...... He has already placed a call into his daughter who lives 1500 hundred miles away so he can ask her how is sister felt right before she died. (His daughter was a caregiver to his sister for about year).
It seem like this is more psychological than physical, and though my husband does not feel very good most of the time, any time I am about to go on a trip, his begins to feel like he is on his last legs. I assure you, that even with all his medical issues, he is NOT on his death bed. If I try to re-assure him that he is fine, or will be fine while I am gone, he gets all huffy puffy and said I just don't know how sick he is.
So for now I am just playing this a bit on deaf ear, because I knew this scenario would crop up as usual.
So how many of you experience this scenario when you have a chance to go away for a bit?
I know exactly what you mean ( Guess I married the same guy too ! ), every & I mean every time I have the chance to get out and have fun my husband vomit's just before I'm ready to leave ! I was stupid in the beginning and cancelled my plans because I thought he was sick.......well not anymore. Now I hand him a towel and say "Hope ya feel better " and I leave !
Enjoy your well deserved vacation my friend !
Hugs, Phoebe :-)
Just one more thing I learned to do to survive as a caregiver these last four years .
Have a great day !
Hugs, Phoebe
While in Vegas, I realized how much I have to do on a daily basis at home, and how much my husband has deteriorated this last year compared to when I went to Las Vegas at this time last year. I have to admit, I did dreaded coming home. My husband told me how bad he felt all weekend, how he could not do anything, etc. I took it in stride, knowing that this really is just going to be a daily thing with him from here on out. Now that I am home, helped him with a shower, made him some dinner, and am spending time with him, he is starting to feel better. You know, sometimes it is just that they want special attention!
My patience with my husband had worn pretty thin, so getting away really helped. I feel like I can handle this situation better now....well, at least for awhile!!! lol
Thanks all for your support!!!
so glad you had such a nice respite!.