Caregivers Support Group

A voluntary caregiver is a spouse, relative, friend or neighbor of a disabled person or child who assists with activities of daily living and assists those unable to fully take care of themselves. The challenges of a caregiver are unique and sometimes it's hard to find people to talk to who know what you're going through. Join the conversation and find others who...

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HugsNeeded2
HugsNeeded2
Since April, I have been taking care of my husband who is recovering from a brain injury. The twist is that for the past 4 years I have been having lots of trouble with my legs. Add to the mix that I work full time teaching BD high school students computers. Right now I am sitting with my computer on my lap trying to get my quarter grades done. I just cann't fouce on my work, Think I will go to bed and hope that some how I will get everything done.
ajm1959
ajm1959
I hear you loud and clear. I too work full time and care for my husband. The hardest thing for me is keeping appointments. It takes away from my work day and doesn't leave me time for my medical needs. The stress is killing my teeth and I've had to have 5 root canals and 5 crowns in the last year. I don't have time to sit at the dentist for 4 hours and started working some weekends to make up. but that too is a problem, weekends for me are work work work. I have 3 1/2 acres and there is a lot of maintenance needed with that size of land. I'm just so happy I found this group, I lets me know I'm not alone and others have the same issues.
hugs - Arlene
deenamom
deenamom
What is BD? The first thing that comes to mind for me is "brain dead". LOL

Seriously, though, you are dealing with a lot of challenges. One key thing is to do everything you can to take good care of yourself. Otherwise, you will be no good to anyone else.

What is his prognosis for recovery time? Is this supposed to be a "permanent" thing or do they see him getting better and not needing you...or at least not needing you so much?

Sending love and care.
MelodyJane
MelodyJane
Welcome to Caregivers, HugsNeeded2!
You will find this group to be supporting & loving. We ALL "get" how difficult it is to be a Caregiver.
I cannot imagine your stress in dealing with your home situation & then the challenges of teaching BD students...
Sending hugs & I know you'll make lots of friends here in Caregivers!
MelodyJane
laurapaq
laurapaq
I also understand how hard this is .

The people in this group are very caring.

I also care for my husband who has a brain injury.
I retired from my nursing job to be at home with him...not much support from his family.
People always say to take care of yourself,but it is so hard.

I once told a doctor when I was being discharged from hospital ,that I am third after my cat. He told me that was very sad and it is.

I don't know where you live,but here in Canada we have funded home care,but it is sporadic . They are always short staffed.

I hope you can get some help. Many of us burn out due to being over worked,

Welcome to our group
Blessings
Laura
KiddoGal
KiddoGal
HugsNeeded2: Here is a big HUG to you from me and everyone. I know how tough it is to work and take care of someone. Everyone keeps asking me when I will retire (I am 60). Without me working, who would pay the bills??? I also have a medical issue (Rheumatoid Arthritis) and thankfully, it is under control. Do you know why your legs hurt? Have you seen a doctor? Please do what you need to do to take care of yourself!!! Remember, we just can't do it all, only what we can. Let us know how you are doing!
Anne8
Anne8
I have been thinking of seeking out a group for caregivers of TBI patients. . . I will have to take over caring for my husband who was hit by a car in July and has not recovered much at all. And I myself have MS, so limited mobility and strength already. . . don't know how I will cope when the time comes. . .