I posted regarding my anxiety in the anxiety forum but I really need advice on the caregiving situation. My grandmother broke her hip last year and her health has steadily declined. Her daughter is her primary caregiver but she is exhausted and cannot continue to care for her full time. I live a few hours away and I physically cannot be there to care for her either as it is taking a toll on my marriage and personal life. I try to be there when I can but I am not going to be able to continue doing this forever. My grandmother does not have the financial means to pay for an assisted living facility and I cannot afford to cover the cost.
She really needs to go into a nursing home but I do not know where to begin with this. Her daughter has power of attorney and I think she is in agreement with placing her but every time we try to talk about it she gets emotionally distraught. It is to the point now that if she does not agree to place her somewhere I am going to have to seperate myself from the situation which is not what I want to do (but will have to for the sake of my mental health and my marriage).
Can someone advise me where I can begin on trying to get her placed? She does not qualify for Medicaid at present but I understand that can change if she goes in to a facility? What if she refuses to go? She refused to go to the hospital just yesterday when she needed to go. I am so upset by all of this and I am just at the end of my rope emotionally. Any advice anyone can give is greatly appreciated.