Awww, I am in week one, and I already get most of this! I tried the paci yesterday, and after some research, I realized this was a big mistake! I guess she got what is referred to as "nipple confusion." I put that thing away. Also, I found out they do need to BF when they demand it or show signs. They are going through growing cycles, and at times it seems like that's all your doing (and it pretty much is). As far as the sleeping goes, I have already learned to sleep laying on my back and her on my boob. I didn't want to co-sleep either, but I wake up every little grunt or move. I am beginning to feel more comfortable. I guess you have to figure out what works for you. For me, I am a SAHM, so I have time to BF when she demands it, where as I know this not the case for everyone.
My DH found this site that helped us and eased his worries.
http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/bf/momtips.asp
Good luck!

It could be nipple confusion. A month old is a bit young for a pacifier if you are bf'ing. And even with a pacifier, many babies still crave the comfort of Mommy and the breast. My daughter would never even take a pacifier so consider yourself lucky! It could be loads of other issues, too, so you might want to consult a lactation consultant!

As for sleeping we had this problem in the hospital. What worked was to swaddle the baby three times - in three blankets,very very tightly. He could then sleep without the boob constantly in his mouth. As for being a fussy eater try to observe when this happens. Is it during a letdown? Could you have too strong a letdown? Could it be acid reflux? This is usually manifested by baby unlatching and crying inconsolably plus a lot of spit up (see more about symptoms at infantreflux.org). I doubt it's anything about you having low supply but do observe how and when it happens exactly so you can describe it to your pediatrician or a lactation consultant. Good luck

marlow has had a pacifier since day one, they gave it to her in the hospital! however i have started to pump and feed her with a bottle. its more convenient in some situations.
i think she may be starting to like the bottle more! when i tried to feed her last nite she wouldnt have it, so i pumped and tried the bottle and she took it.
hopefully this is just a phase!

It definitely sounds like there may be some nipple confusion going on. BF babie sshoudlnever get a paci or bottle until minimum of 6 mths old. IF you have any intentions of continuing bf, then you really have to cut out all bottles, and I would add, all pacis.

IMO, that hospitla was really irresponsible to pop a paci into her mouth knowing you wanted to bf. GRR!

You are doing the best thing fo ryour baby by bf; please do not listen toyour family telling you to give her formula. On the other hand, as srsnde pointed out, pacis can indeed interfere with milk production. BF is really a question of supply and demand. WHen she gets hungry, regardless of when it is, you have to put her on the breast to ensure adequate milk supply. If she stops actively nursing, do breast compressions:

http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=8:breast-compression&catid=5:information&Itemid=17
You squeeze the breast in one continuous movement, holding it, until your milk statrs to flow and baby starts to suck actively again.

Here is a link on starting out right:
http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=45:breastfeeding-starting-out-right&catid=5:information&Itemid=17


If you really nee to get in a feed other than form the breast, finger or cup feed, do not use a bottle. Later if baby is older, and you go back to work, you may give a bottle , but only with a slow-flow nipple, to help prevent nipple confusion. Nipple confusion occurs if baby gets used to having the easy and fast flow from a bottle, without having to do any of the "work" with bf. Baby may later refuse to take the breast. However, if a baby has been exclusively bf for a long time, sya 4 or 5 mths, the baby willl no doubt prefer bf to a bottle, even if it has bm in it.

http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=5:finger-and-cup-feeding&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

You did not mention if you are giving formula in the bottles or expressed breast milk? Each time you give a bottle of formula, your supply will go down...even if you pump to replace a feed, it may go down, because a pump is not as good as baby at stimulating your nipples.

http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=16:expressing-breast-milk&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

How to know if bb is getting enough bm:
http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=23:is-my-baby-getting-enough-milk&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

how to get more bm into your baby:
http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=29:protocol-to-increase-breastmilk-intake&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

Slow weight gain after early good weight gain (this is not your case.....yet. Hopefully, it willnot be. But it may well happen. Forewarned is forearmed)
http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=47:slow-weight-gain-following-early-good-weight-gain&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

How to find help with bf. In your case, I think a visit with a good lactation consultant could do wondrs to 1) give you confidence tha tyour body can do just fine with bf; and 2) gie you the proper emotional and technical support needed, for you to continue in achieving your goals of bf:

http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=17:finding-a-breastfeeding-support-person&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

Finally, have a look at these video clips. They are amazing and u can learn a lot by watching them..wish I knew about them when I wa nursing my 3...discovered them only much later! (They also show the aforementioned breast compressions)

http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=category&layout=blog&id=6&Itemid=13

By the way, it is normal for your baby to want th ebreast in her mouth, and not necessarily something to be discouraged. They need to suck to pacify themselves, sometimes. Ever wonder why the "paci" is actualy also called a "dummy" in some countries? Because the breast is the real thing!

I suspect that if you get rid of the paci and bottles, and do the breast compressions to get baby actively nursing though, she will not even want to "be on the breast" all the time.

BTW, babies can spend the whole day "on the breast" and still NOT be getting enough milk!

And if you are ppoped getting up in th middle of th enight, try co-sleeping actually recommended by UNICEF and the WHO to FACILITATE and Encourage bf! I fyou are fast asleep, will you really care whether bb is still latched on or not? Most likely not! :)

I really urge you READ VERY CAREFULLY all of the above links. THe answers ar rigth there, I promise.

And if you have read them trhough carefully, and are still inetersted in MORE, then you may wish to read up on common bf MYTHS that are spreading misiniformation to bf moms. SOme of the information is really quite startling...
http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=27:myths-of-breastfeeding&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

Good luck, and if you want me to send you a brochure from unicef on safe co-sleeping, send me apm with your e-mail. And do not hesitate to ask if you have any other questions...

YOu are doing great. Keep it up!

From what you've explained and the follow up you provided, it absolutely sounds like nipple confusion. We went through the same thing when my son was about 4 months old. If possible, absolutely get rid of the bottles. You may have a few agonizing feedings, but I assure you, if she's hungry enough, she will eat. The last thing you want to do it give in and give her a bottle...it's just teaching her that all she has to do is fuss and you'll give her what she wants. In the end, it will ruin your breastfeeding relationship!