Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi all, I really appreciate reading people's posts and comments. I've picked up lots of useful advice. I also find that I have been "honing' my advice over time.
Thought it would be interesting to see a discussion on folk's best pieces of advice. What are the one or two really important things you tell others to get through this separation hell?
Thought it would be interesting to see a discussion on folk's best pieces of advice. What are the one or two really important things you tell others to get through this separation hell?
Just accept its over and move forward.
Also read www.breakuprecoveryguide.com until you have it memorized. Very helpful site.
And post here for advice from those going through the same thing. After 17 months I can say it DOES get better.
I wish someone had shown me this over a year ago
Very helpful advice
I am 5 weeks NC and starting to feel some benefit from it.....even 2 years after separation
My best advice is trust your inner knowing above all others.
That means listen to your body and your 'gut' instincts. Our bodies & instincts never lie. If you feel anxious, scared, uneasy, uncomfortable, nervous, etc. there's a reason.
Don't try to rationalize or explain the feelings. It's the rationalizing and/or explaining that ends up talking us out of trusting our inner knowing & our bodies. My body and 'gut instinct' have never ever been wrong when warning or 'red flagging' me.
This is was an amazing advice but she didn't say how to change it. I discovered that on my own.
I went back to look at the things I used to do before I met my ex-wife. I listened to the songs I used to listen to before she came along. I started doing what I used to do before she came along.
It was truly an amazing thing. All of a sudden, I was just doing fine.