Hello, I am 49 years old and have been married for 25yrs. My wife and I met and immediately fell in love and married soon after. We spent the early days travelling and starting a successful business that allowed us to see the world. We took our now 18yr old son everywhere with us, so that he could know what a great big world we live in and all the opportunities it offered. About 7 years ago, when the economy tanked, our business suffered. So of course financial problems began. I became extremely depressed and began heavily drinking. My wife kept our business going and put up with my selfish attitude. I completely checked out. She begged for me to help. I finally had to get a job, which I resented because I could no longer be at the business we built. Our business continued to suffer, I buried my head deeper and we trudged on to the present. We can no longer keep our dream home, bills have stacked up, we grew further apart. It has been several years since we were intimate. I had gained weight and with the depression could not imagine why she would want to be with me anymore. We have always been very social and had great friends. We have been best friends with a couple for over 10 years. The Husband and I have taken our 2 boys all over with their elite sports team. He needed help with his business a few years ago, so I began working for him. He has been the closet friend as an adult I have ever had. Our families spent time travelling, eating together planning our retirements. 2 weeks ago, I was at their house drinking and watching college football. My wife came over later and we all ate dinner, hung out. I said it was time to go and gathered my things, my wife said she was right behind me with our son. My son and friend's daughter heard my wife and friend profess feelings for each other. My son blazed home and immediately told me, I confronted my wife and my world came crashing down further. I am at a loss. They only expressed feelings, and I truly believe nothing happened, it was purely emotional. I have no one to talk too. My friend and I talked and he expressed great remorse and begged me to not give up on our friendship. I forgive him, it just takes too much energy to hold grudges and Jesus can only heal me if I give it to Him. My wife and I finally spoke productively for the first time last night. She is so hurt from my years of neglect, that I don't know if I can make it right with her. I have not had a drink since that night and am trying to get out of my fog. She said she doesn't know what she wants right now, because she has to focus her energy on her new business, getting our house sold and keeping our son happy. I have really blown it. I guess it is a good sign that she wants me to stay at home for now. I guess I just have to give her this time to heal and maybe we can learn to love again.