You mention a boyfriend. Is he the guy who gave you the STD?

Do you want to be with him? If you do, how you met him is kinda a moot point unless you feel he coerced you into the relationship. If coercion is prevalent in the relation it myst be addressed if you want to maintain a successful relationship.

If you dont want to be with him, stand up for yourself and leave.

Many people live with STDs, and are able to maintain healthy sexual relationships. It just requirea understanding, acceptance and diligence.

Hi there, YardEggs is right. Having an STD does not mean that you can't have a good relationship with someone else in the future.

That person must know about it, you must both take precautions, and if that person loves you for who you are, the fact that you have an STD won't really matter that much.

Alternatively, you could find a new person that already has the same STD and it wouldn't be an issue at all. I hope this helps.

@I_can_change,

I had to LOL at your final comment. I can just imagine the personal ad.

ISO new boyfriend. Positive STD status a must. Please apply within...

Lol, damnit Yard, I was trying to be helpful! I have seen this happen before though. People meet in an STD support group and connect.

I know. But I have a sick humor.

Grrrr.

I dated a girl who had an STD (I didn't and don't). We'll we had to be careful it wasn't the end of the world. Yes, some people might react badly but the right person won't.

You stated you are wondering why you are together - guilting you or you feeling someone might not accept you. Only you can judge if you are happy. You shouldn't be with someone because of guilt. I've been there and it eats you inside.

Imiru,

This guy appears to be "gaslighting" you in order for you to stay within the relationship. He hopes that you will not realize that you deserve better (which you do) and if he keeps you down enough, you'll stay there. I do not know the whole relationship and it is not my place to judge that. You also are your own person. That said, if you want to play the field and see what else is out there, neither him nor an STD should stop you. Like others have said, there are many ways to maintain healthy sex and with the right treatment (and the right guy) it is doable. It may require more honesty upfront with someone, but that also will help you discern which guys are worthwhile and which ones are not sooner rather than later. So, I ask you is staying in a somewhat dysfunctional relationship because of an STD really worth it? Also, you should talk to your doctor about getting back "out there" and how to have safe sex. The doctor may have some suggestions for maintaining as well. I do think a support group for living with an STD may be a good idea, I think it will make you feel less alone. Of course, again that is up to you. But, listen to yourself about what you really want!

One more thing, I stayed with someone way too long because I felt too "guilty" to leave. To this day, I still struggle with guilt, but I have to remind myself that I did the right thing for me. He also did not treat me right. I know that he cared for me, but he did not care for me the right way. I deserved much better, so after many attempts, I finally left for good. But it was the guilt that trapped me for way too long. I also by the way, I had an STD that he gave me,now it was one of the less severe ones and it was easily treated. But, he had been the first guy I was intimate with, while we both got treated and he couldn't blame me because I hadn't had other partners at that time, he also used it as a way to try to keep me trapped within the relationship. He had hoped that if i felt bad enough about myself that I would never leave him. For a while, we were on and off, so during that time, I went out with a few different people, but when we did get back together he made it as if he hadn't been with anyone but even though it was a break, I shouldn't have been with other guys and he handled everything better than me. Now, I will admit that because I struggled with leaving him and I didn't know how for a long time, I did sleep with other guys that he doesn't know about during the time we were together, I was completely safe. I am not proud of how I did it but I think a part of me was trying so hard to get out and I felt so trapped that I was acting out. That said, I do have guilt about that because we were completely exclusive. However, I also know why I did it and know that is out of character for me. I don't believe I would have slept with that many guys if I hadn't felt so trapped in a toxic situation. I also knew that he thought because he took my virginity, I had been a late virgin, he thought and worked very hard to make sure that I wouldn't sleep with anyone else. He wanted to control me that way. This isn't about me but the point is he made it very difficult to leave him and tried to make me feel very bad about it. He even tried to say that the DUI he got after we broke up was my fault essentially and that I didn't care. For a minute, I did feel bad about it too because I think he did go to Jail for more than overnight because it was his second DUI, he had gotten one before I met him and then after we broke up. In general, I am trying to say that everyone has guilt about things and you shouldn't feel bad for wanting to see what's out there. More often than not, guys who work hard to make girls feel guilty and needy are actually the more needy and guilty ones.

If your not happy, and feel obligated to stay because you think nobody else will want you. Things won't get better long term. Short term, yes. But it will always come back. Everyone has faults and baggage. You have a sexual disability. Not the end of the world. Many do. If your not happy, leave. And when you meet someone, be open and upfront about it. Don't advertise it, but when you feel things heading that way.... for some, it might be a deal breaker, but I think you'd be surprised how many it wouldn't be