Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Well go out and trying to have some fun was the worse thing I could of done...It backfired on me.. I went out of the house smiling I was with my friends in town, and mind you our town is only a mile long and 78 people. My oldest son came home and my husband asked if he saw me and he told him I was walking down the road to go play bingo with one of the male guys in town... Not a big deal at all tons of people around not anything bad at all...he was asking to borrow my 4 wheeler. Anyway the kids come to me as I was smiling and laughing with my girlfriend and that is who I was with and said that my husband left the house and went out...he couldn't drive anywhere I had the car so they thought my oldest son took him.... I became livid because he had jusaid he didn't want to go anywhere he wanted to stay in. Well he shows up where I am at a couple hours later...already drunk...he then proceeds to get even more drunk...I leave around 11pm and he sasays he will walk home, I said fine......at 2:45am he sin't home...So I get in the car and have to pick him up out of the bar. He gets to the house and is billigerant and starts cussing at me out....
It try to get him upstairs to bed and he is pissed off and I finally get him in the bedroom and he starts puking cussing me the entire time...I felt like I was transformed back to my first marriage to the alcoholic...I was mortified. This has not been typical for my husband until the past 6 months...even a DUI under his belt.
He wakes up this morning...still cussing me and I said I felt like I was reliving my past life..he said obviously its you that is what you drive a man to do.... I went to Alanon for years and I know that is the classic example of an alcoholic...I want to leave but just can't pack up with no where to go... I am the only support for my family I can't lose my job and I can't afford daycare for my son...I am just at my wits end....I want to write him a letter but I know its just wasted time on paper because it is the same thing I did with my EX beg and plead him to love me and his kids enough to stop being so selfish...
My best friend who lives in another state has just said pack your bags I will take care of everything for you just leave you don't need anything I will help you but I don't know if that is the solution....I love my job and quitting a good paying one is not the thing to do..
I am exhausted didn't go to bed til 5am...he get's drunk and is able to sleep it off the next day and I take care of the kids .........I am just so tired of being sick and tired.
It try to get him upstairs to bed and he is pissed off and I finally get him in the bedroom and he starts puking cussing me the entire time...I felt like I was transformed back to my first marriage to the alcoholic...I was mortified. This has not been typical for my husband until the past 6 months...even a DUI under his belt.
He wakes up this morning...still cussing me and I said I felt like I was reliving my past life..he said obviously its you that is what you drive a man to do.... I went to Alanon for years and I know that is the classic example of an alcoholic...I want to leave but just can't pack up with no where to go... I am the only support for my family I can't lose my job and I can't afford daycare for my son...I am just at my wits end....I want to write him a letter but I know its just wasted time on paper because it is the same thing I did with my EX beg and plead him to love me and his kids enough to stop being so selfish...
My best friend who lives in another state has just said pack your bags I will take care of everything for you just leave you don't need anything I will help you but I don't know if that is the solution....I love my job and quitting a good paying one is not the thing to do..
I am exhausted didn't go to bed til 5am...he get's drunk and is able to sleep it off the next day and I take care of the kids .........I am just so tired of being sick and tired.
Maybe you should get marriage counseling. Both of you are likely feeling angry, hurt, and devastated about everything. If your husband has only been drinking the past 6 months...maybe there's something that can be done about it.
Good luck to you!
I was married to a binge addict for over 14 years (with him for 17 years) so I know how hard it can be.
Sorry it's so hard right now.
I am really not interested in saving it at this point it is very toxic... he would never go marriage counseling he lets me know I am not worth his time and energy...he is just "along for the ride until something better comes along " Meaning someone with money to take care of him so he would never have to work or have a care or concern in the world... he is a selfish self centered spoiled brat....I don't even like him and question if I love him... I pretty much think I am just so tired and have to make sure I keep my job that I just can't deal with a disruption right now and don't have the time to leave him...I need to wait until vacation time......how sick and pathetic is that...