Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Why women and men are attracted by the opposite sex who is either unhappily committed or sends the vibe as such?
I expect to be verbally slapped here with the question, but it is true and many current events are showing this. More and more we see the Tiger Woods, Elliot Spitzer, ESPN Phillips and many, many others coming up as scandalous entertainment that people hate to talk about it.
Truth is: no matter if one is famous or not. Man or Woman. Rich or poor. There is something about searching sexually the other side that is hard to control.
I subconsciously include myself in the list.
Do you?
I expect to be verbally slapped here with the question, but it is true and many current events are showing this. More and more we see the Tiger Woods, Elliot Spitzer, ESPN Phillips and many, many others coming up as scandalous entertainment that people hate to talk about it.
Truth is: no matter if one is famous or not. Man or Woman. Rich or poor. There is something about searching sexually the other side that is hard to control.
I subconsciously include myself in the list.
Do you?
I believe it always went on, just as common as with us simple folk, but it's just a helliuvalot easier to get caught today, that's all. They just got caught.
I can honestly say that when I was in a committed relationship with a man, I never "searched" anywhere else, nor felt any need to "control" myself. That's just me.
As far as myself goes I was never tempted to cheat the entire marriage, but the opportunity presented itself near the end. My marriage was pretty bad the whole way through. My stbx is an online gaming addict and near the end of our relationship before we seperated his "solution" to my complaints that he never spet time with me was for me to play the games with him. I reluctantly joined the game he was playing but found he never really played with me. I met anotehr player who would say, your so sweet, your so kind, your husband is so mean to you. He one day said to me, you know I could drive out there and take you away from everything. I of corse told the guy no. I told my husband about what this guy said and that I really felt that he and I needed a lot of marriage counseling. Sadly instead of going to counseling and working through our issues (which the counselor said he felt we could work things out, that our issues were workable)he decided to tell our family members that I cheated on him! I never even met the guy on the game (and my stbx had a few girls on the game he chatted with and I never felt he was cheating on me). For some reason my stbx is REALLY against counseling. Anyway we recently talked about this situation that happened between us and he told me he regretted saying what he did to the family because it extremely damaged the feelings between us, and even though were divorcing now there are hard feelings between us over this and it makes it hard for us to communicate with each other. I guess the point I was trying to make is, even in a bad marriage when someone is tempted, or presented with the situations to cheat, it is self control and self respect that will keep you from doing it.