I didn't find it hard to control at all. Did I enjoy looking at an attractive man if I saw one....hell yes. But, that's is far as it went. I was truly in love with my ex. I didn't want to be with anyone else. Even now the thought of being with someone else makes me sick.

There must be something wrong with either the relationship or the person that feels the need to explore outside of a COMMITTED relationship. That is and will never be acceptable to me.

We knew a couple that was into the swinging lifestyle. If both agree, then party on. As one who was cheated on, I will never ever understand that need or spending energy on the outside when it should have been spent with me.

I have gone my whole life without cheating.
I had a few times were I could have. I was alone at work, hundreds of miles away in a camp setting where no body knew me or my wife. Those few times I did like I do every time. Said sorry, I am married.

Its just sex, I love sex, I could not live my life without it I do not think, but it is just sex. I can wait till I got home and done it with my wife. If she was someone who did not want sex or we were on different levels of expectations, then I would have left.

It is easy to say NO, it is a lot harder to say yes and duck and dodge afterwards .

As far as Tiger Woods goes, cheaters suck, but why the hell is it any of our buisness what is going on in his life. Do people expect that their lives get thrown all over their neighborhoods so all the people around them know every secret you and your family have. The guy fucked up bad, leave it to him, his wife and the people actually effected by it instead of spreading the rumors.

People keep talking about Tiger like it's a surpise that a biilionaire athlete was banging multiple women. Personally, I think you have to assume the vast majority of athletes are cheating on their spouses.

I agree with Frank - I've handled some of the resulting paternity cases.

Lynne

What Frank said.

I saw it playing ball and was guilty of it too. And we weren't even rich. But girls were all over.

Now working at stadiums, I still see it.

I mean, the Red Sox bullpen gives autographs to people that toss naked pics of girlfriends to them from the stands.

There is a direct correlation between ambition and infidelity.

Evolutionarily, women are attracted to ambitious, successful men as they make better providers. They will more often present themselves as mating options to these alpha males.

This is not lost on men. Subconsciously the drive to be successful is often fueled by a desire to be attractive to multiple mates.

Therefore one can predict a higher rate of infidelity among overachieving males. They have the impulse and the opportunity.

Think about that next time you hold out for a rich, successful man.

Skanks Rock

I remember being very driven by my sexual needs. Years n' years ago. It put me in many stupid situations.

Now, older, and having stayed 12 years with my X, who is on such a high level of anti-depressants, their sex drive has been -0- for years.

It helped me learn that sex is just a physical need. Get off...and it's done. The connection between lovers, I believe, should go deeper, ..spiritually, emotionally, intellectually. Those factors can carry the relationship through YEARS.

This will sound crass, but one can get off on a ...door knob!! Allowing our physical need for an orgasm to pull us from a true, valuable human connection is really neandrathal.

Just my take on it..

They're never there when you really need them, though.

For the record I can't get off on a doorknob.

O.o

I feel like I should be clubbed over the head and dragged after reading that.

Wait until after I get my autographs please.

Very true Vac.

That's where lying comes in handy

Does the door knob vibrate? I so would not do that. I need more than that.

Don't think I'll try.

Hi Vac.

I know many very successful men who don't cheat. I also know many under-employed men who do.
And I could care less what Tiger Wood's does.

That wouldn't be inconsistent with the math, Jo. It's a correlation, not a law.

Also let's get an ice cream cake.