Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My husband and I have been married 10 years together 11. When we met we were so much alike and so happy it was unreal. We were so happy to find each other. He is a musician and I come from a musical family also. Our personalities meshed perfectly and we told everyone how happy we were. We met on my space in 2006 and always shared our cute pics and trips. We started cute traditions for holidays and things were great. Awesome went on I got frustrated with the band thing cause it took time away from us. In 2014 he disappeared from our house. I freaked out. He told me he needed space so he can concentrate on his bands and I was holding him back. I told him I would back off he came back and I backed right off and help support him and was there for for him. Things seemed to be a lot better. We finally sold a house we had that was in disrepair it almost didn't go through because of a lein on the house from an old bill I couldn't pay when I had lost a job. Luckily I had it paid way down and so I took care of it and it went through. We didnt get much for the house. He let the taxes go on it and so a big chunk went towards back bills. He was frusterated but we decided to pay up old bills so We cam move forward. I agreed. Suddenly Sunday he shows up says he got his own place and was fine with as he said this. I said what? He said bills always coming up like that. He was frustrated I had lost my job a few years back even though I have a great one now. He blamed me for the back taxes which he told me not to worry about at that time he would take care of it. I don't oboe what I did so wrong at all. He barely will talk to me and wants to be alone. I just have no clue what I did so bad?
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You pandering to him and giving into his demands early on about "band time" so he wouldn't leave and backing way off as you put it, set a precedent where he gets what he wants and you have no say in things. He just did what he did before, he wanted a different situation and didn't feel the need to talk to you about it. When good communication skills are not developed early on in a marriage these kinds of problems come up.
You don't say much about "love" in your marriage, just "happy, awesome and unreal". Are you sure you had a good steady foundation in the beginning? You may need to let him be for a day or two and then try to talk to him about "real life in the real world" bills are inevitable, unless your going off grid to Alaska or some crazy such thing. If he thinks he's not going to have bills in his new place, there's something off in his head.