Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have finally moved on from my 5 year toxic and abusive relationship. 3 months after a bad breakup I met a beautiful person unexpectedly. I am insanely happy with my new lover and his love for me is reciprocated. We have spent every weekend together since we met.
Now here's the problem:
I am 33 and he is 22. His parents do not approve. I need advice on what to say to his parents when I meet them.
Here's a little more on our history. We have been together for 5 months. I didn't go in search for a younger man. I met him at a charity event and he looked much older than I thought. We hit off immediately. We never ran out of things to talk about and hung out for rest of the night. At the end of the night, I find out he's 22 and I was very disappointed. We remain friends but that was short lived as there was unbelievable chemistry that was hard to control after 1 month. He and I have finally gotten over the age difference at this point. We believe we compliment each other with the fact that he's an old soul and I'm free spirited and young at heart.
Fast forward to the issue at hand: He still lives with his parents. He's finishing up his last year in college which he pays for himself from the 2 jobs that he is working currently. I am switching careers, no children/never married and starting over after a toxic 5 year relationship and finishing my last year in school as well. His parents have not met me yet and have voiced their disapproval to him on several occasions. They think he needs to be with someone his age in order to have a healthy relationship. He's implied to me that maybe if they met me and got to know me, it would change their views.
I would do anything to relieve some of the stress that his parents are giving him and just for him/us to be happy. I know he would do the same for me. His father has asked him many times, what is she doing with a 22 year old? Can somebody provide me with some insight or inspiration as to how handle or what I'm going to say to the questions that they will bombard me with when I eventually meet them?
Now here's the problem:
I am 33 and he is 22. His parents do not approve. I need advice on what to say to his parents when I meet them.
Here's a little more on our history. We have been together for 5 months. I didn't go in search for a younger man. I met him at a charity event and he looked much older than I thought. We hit off immediately. We never ran out of things to talk about and hung out for rest of the night. At the end of the night, I find out he's 22 and I was very disappointed. We remain friends but that was short lived as there was unbelievable chemistry that was hard to control after 1 month. He and I have finally gotten over the age difference at this point. We believe we compliment each other with the fact that he's an old soul and I'm free spirited and young at heart.
Fast forward to the issue at hand: He still lives with his parents. He's finishing up his last year in college which he pays for himself from the 2 jobs that he is working currently. I am switching careers, no children/never married and starting over after a toxic 5 year relationship and finishing my last year in school as well. His parents have not met me yet and have voiced their disapproval to him on several occasions. They think he needs to be with someone his age in order to have a healthy relationship. He's implied to me that maybe if they met me and got to know me, it would change their views.
I would do anything to relieve some of the stress that his parents are giving him and just for him/us to be happy. I know he would do the same for me. His father has asked him many times, what is she doing with a 22 year old? Can somebody provide me with some insight or inspiration as to how handle or what I'm going to say to the questions that they will bombard me with when I eventually meet them?
-
-
I had gone to the grocery store. When I wheeled my cartback to my car I just stool there a minute. A few spacesaway a Tesla Cyber truck was parked. I had seen it on theroad a few times for a few seconds. But not close up.It looked like it belonged to 2126 and not 2026. I wasgoing to take a picture of the car but the owners cameback and drove away. It was an ordinary middle age...
I learned from my grandparents a very, very long time ago. I must have
been about 12, I am now 65-----my cousin, who was white,was going to marry a very dark Hawaiian. my grandfather made the comment he was awfully dark. My grandmother made the comment if he makes her happy, what is the difference. That was the end of the discussion.
I feel it is the same for age. If you make him happy, what is the difference???????
I think to judge you, before they meet you is unfair to both you and him.
I am so very sorry and I have no clue what you could say to them to change their minds. maybe just take time, after you've been together for awhile.
Good luck!!!!!
As far as his parents, go with the flow. Eventually, if they really care about their son's happiness, they will come to terms that his young adult child make choices in terms of partner selection.
Wishing you luck :)
I too have met a couple much younger men after my divorce but had to break it off because they were looking for a sugar mama. He seems to have his head on his shoulders though.
All the best!!
So, if in time, it is meant to be, then they will get to know you, see that your intentions are not bad, and things will likely improve. However, I'm just offering the "mother" perspective, that it is somewhat natural to have concerns for your son in their dating life. Try not to take it personally, try not to be defensive about it. Because as a mom, I would respect a woman dating my son a lot more if she tried to respect and understand my wanting my son to be safe and happy. He will always be their son, no matter his age or relationship choices.
I wish the best for the two of you!!!
Sounds kind of sexy there right? What young 20 something man wouldn't want to have some fun with an older asian woman. Yea, she's asian and he's white.
Now, keep in mind that if you're in it for the fun too, it's all good. There is nothing wrong with that. Though, like I told her, 30+10 = 40 and 20+10=30 and 30 vs 40 is a huge difference as compared to 20 vs 30.
Especially, if the man is 30. Heck, if I had been having good sex with some 30 year old when I was going to school and now she's 40 and I'm 30... I'd dump her too and hit on the 20yr old girls.
She said no no... ok, fast forward 6yrs... he dumped her for a younger woman. He didn't even wait for her to get to 40.
I have had both good and bad experiences dating younger people in my early thirties. I have found that they usually are looking for a sugar mama, don't know what they want out of their life career wise, and even if it does work out as it did for me and the woman I married, she ended her life with suicide at 27 because all of the changes she had been through in her twenties made the relationship not work out anymore.
then again, when I was in my late 30s I met a 50 year old man and had a wonderful relationship with him that only recently ended.
Sometimes age differences work out. I hope it works out for you.
I wish you the best.
Most recently, he sat me down and wanted to know how I felt about our future together, so that he can plan his career location etc ..around us(he is graduating soon). It was a good conversation because we are still on the same page. I will keep you posted and I would love to hear everyone else's experiences as well.
It’s funny ...him and I look back on those days and laugh about our age debacle because it’s nothing compared our feisty toddler, sleep deprivation and never ending home ownership projects.
I wouldn’t trade it for the world.