Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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pattongb 01/30/2008

I am going to try and make it through the night without talking to my stbx or going over to her house to see if she is really alone. Last time I did that I caught her with someone.

She says it was a 1 time mistake and its over till our divorce if final. I want to believe her and not go spying on her every chance I get.

So wish me luck in making it through the night...

deleted_user 01/30/2008

I do wish you luck, it would only hurt you, not her. Find a movie to watch, something to occupy your mind. You can do this.

deleted_user 01/30/2008

I knew deep down my X had cheated on me-I could not leave it alone-I researched and made inquiries-when I found out the truth it nearly killed me-You know what you need to knw-the rest will only hurt you.

deleted_user 01/30/2008

I wish you all the luck you need. But do yourself a favor, think about who it is going to hurt the most if she isn't being truthful. It's going to hurt you. You want and need to heal, opening the wound isn't going to help. Try to read a book, or watch a funny or yet scary movie. Do something other than dwell. I know it's easy to say, and even harder to do. I too know that feeling, and it sucks.

deleted_user 01/30/2008

Stay Away!! don't bring that pain into your night! Breath, relax and have a drink (soda or beer which ever you prefer) Hang out with us or Just be.

Stay away!

deleted_user 01/30/2008

I know that i dont know ur situation...but it seems to be that u describing her as ur stbx and thats what u need to start treating and thinking of her as...
its hard to deal with but the truth is - u are not together so its not ur job to worry about if she is with someone else or not...
I know u are not divorced yet - so i can see how her being with someone now would hurt u more ...but its not gonna feel much better even after the divorce..
i think u need to start thinking of the relationship as ended and not worry so much about what she is doing......
like it or not at this time u two are not together and she can do what she wants...whether it be right or wrong ...
u need to be strong enough to not go over to check in
with her....
be strong enough to let it ride its course....it is so easy when ur upset and missing the person to want to know whats going on
this is not a good thing ...trust me,,,
no amt of talking is gonna make u feel better right now...
best bet stay aware do not see or talk to them\

u driving by the house is only going to make u hurt more.... even if she was alone - its still gonna hurt by just going there]
u need time and space to let ur pain go...
think about this the next time u have an urgue to call her.,... u need her out of ur life for a lil so u can get ur life and emotions together...best thing... now is to not know whats going on with her ...
the more u see, pass by thee house and talk to him...the more difficult its gonna be for u
good luvk

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