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will she come back?

peanutsforu
peanutsforu

i’m a 17 year old female. i broke up with my girlfriend 2 weeks ago due to depression i didn’t want to bring her down. it was just so i could work on myself and get better. yesterday i asked if she still sees a future with me and she said yes, but not now cuz she has a lot going on and she wants to make sure i’m completely better. she doesn’t want to talk to me much....and she deleted the pics of me off her instagram. i’m afraid she is just saying she’ll get back with me so she won’t hurt my feelings. we were dating for almost 7 months and i really love her and she seemed to really love me. 

jojored
jojored
I'm sorry about your breakup. If you just broke up 2 weeks ago and the reason you gave was so you could work on yourself, I'm sure in that small amount of time she figures you haven't worked out your issues yet. She's really not obligated to wait for you.....she may indeed have been trying not to hurt your feelings. I would really not contact her anymore, at least in the short term. She needs to live her life, too, which might include dating other people, and you need to focus on you. Bringing her back into the picture, or maintaining contact and continually checking to see if she still wants to be with you only serve to reinforce your insecurities and derail you from your goals of working on yourself. Are you seeing someone for your depression?
strongandsilent
strongandsilent
Sounds like you were very sensible to do what you needed to do to focus on yourself. Stick with that even though it is hard now that she is gone.. she also needs to take care of herself, which may be why she deleted the pics - too strong a reminder.

The best way forward (but not the easiest!) is to follow through on your original intentions. Focus on you.

Then, let the future take care of itself. Again, easier said then done... but, better outcomes mes for you and n the long run!